Do I Really Want a Threesome?

Hello all, I have a question about fantasizing about threesomes versus actually going through with them.

I am in a 7-year, committed relationship and very satisfied with my girlfriend (emotionally, companionate-ly, and sexually), but for a good while now I have fantasized about having a threesome with her and another girl (no other girl in particular). I know that she is sexually attracted to females, because her first kiss/erotic experiences were with a girl, and during sex we sometimes talk out fantasies of her being with a girl. Nonetheless, I recognize that this hardly means she is open to having a threesome. The fantasies we talk out usually involve just her and another girl(s), and don't usually involve me. I don't know if this is because she doesn't fantasize about threesomes, or if she does and worries that I don't want to hear it.

I haven't told her directly that I think about it, because I worry she might feel inadequate, jealous, or think that I'm being selfish and doglike. A big part of it is that I love the thought of her enjoying another girl and myself at the same time (in the fantasies sometimes I tell her to imagine a girl and me sucking on her breasts, which she likes hearing), and the other part, of course, is the idea of getting attention from her and someone else simultaneously.

Does this sound like just a fantasy, or something I actually want to go through with? To give an idea of how often I think about it, I was flying on a plane with my girlfriend and one of our female friends sitting on either side of me, and that alone got me unusually turned on. If I did ever bring it up the idea with her, the most important thing would be to assure her that she is the only girl I truly care about and want to be in a relationship with.

Is this something I should tell her? I really don't like keeping things from her, but at the same time recognize that some things are better kept to myself. Still, it gets torturous after a while to keep these thoughts bottled up.

 

Ask her how she'd like to spice up your sex life, and how she feels threesomes affect relationships. Be prepared for a candid, 100% honest conversation about the potential impact, and don't get into the erotic concept until you fully discuss how committed and interested you are in one another. Remember that kinky sex and group sex is not a replacement for active work in a relationship to nurture and maintain a loving, meaningful relationship.

And when you figure out whether or not it compromises your relationship, then you'll have your answer.

 

have u asked her if shes ever had a threesome? if not this is a good way to bring up the idea.

otherwise, you have been together for many years, im sure she knows that you are not a dog by now! if you are really shy to bring it up out of the blue, perhaps you can try watching some porn together (a three way) and open up the conversation that way.

or you could just say hey babe, our fantasies always involve you with other girls, or three ways, have you ever thought about acting one out for real?

goodlucK! let us know how it goes

 

Oddly enough I am in a strikingly similar situation. Although I have discussed things with my fiance. Its best to be open and discuss things. Just know that she may not want to act upon it. in either case I an confident that you will feel better getting this off your chest and being honest and open about your fantasies. Also be sure to encourage her to be open with you so you know what her fantasies are.

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Have not asked the wife yet but seems we are on the same page during roleplay. I dont really want her to have a relationship and I pretty sure she does not either just some nice cock for her when she wants it. I think I would enjoy from start to finish every second and so would she. I have not asked her yet cause I just dont want her to think I want to fuck somebody else. I want her to get fucked by some big cock and get my turn! If we met a couple then that is differnt...where could we find a std free guy that doesn't mind being one of our play things LOL!

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