Is it premature ejaculation?

Hello! I was wondering about my bf's performance. He is a great lover and everything is perfect, but he comes really quick. Usually it's about 5-10 mins. Not that I have timed, but that's what it feels like. I do not dare to bring this up to ruin his ego, because I really do enjoy it, I just wish it was another 10 mins longer. He seems really turned on, but if he pulls it out during sex to change positions or make it last longer, then it goes soft and he gets frustrated.. What can I do as a girl to help him? Every answer appreciated!

P.s. Alcohol makes him last a lot longer, but I don't feel like drinking every night. Hahah

 

It's natural for guys to cum quickly. "Premature ejaculation" is really a term for "cumming before it is wanted".

Since it's too soon for you, yes, it's premature.

As for how you can help him... I don't see it without bringing it up. Grow a mustache?

 

punch him in the face when he starts gettin wild-eyed and speeding up.

 

:rofl:

 

5 to 10 minutes is not bad. Many guys can't last that long. However, he could always try one of the desensing creams to dull the sensation somewhat.

 

No, he doesn't have a real problem. Premature ejaculation is usually defined as two minutes or less. A survey by Alfred Kinsey in the 1950s demonstrated that three quarters of men ejaculate within two minutes of penetration in over half of their sexual encounters. So, your guy is doing OK.

On the other hand, in the context of a relationship, it is a problem if he comes before you want him to. Maybe you guys just need to communicate more.

 

That's not true.
In sex research it can also be to other set amounts of time, or "cumming before the partner does".
But I find that the most common usage, whether by sex experts or laymen, it's "cumming before wanted" by either partner.

 

So if I want to have an orgasm without cumming every 10 minutes for 6 hours, then cumming, and can't do it, what I actually suffer from is "premature ejaculation".

The above is from Dictionary.com, and is the most common definition of premature ejaculation I have run into.

 

Well, yeah, but that begs the definition of "soon".

 

what?

 

you don't have to drink every night, just make sure he does.

 

to help him, would be to perform fallacio on him first. If he ejaculates prior to intercourse, his second erection will last longer and you'll be more satisfied, which, of course, will help him feel better, too.

 

my ole lady got mandelay cream. benzocaine is the main ingernt, only 2 bucks

 

Check out my thread on premature ejaculation in this Sexual Health Forum. 24,000 guys have done so, and a lot have been helped.

 

Give him an altoid bj for a few mins or rub ice on his balls
He will then last 5-10 mins longer

 

Actually, me and my girlfriend were playing with ice one time and she rubbed some on the tip of my urethra, and it still felt cold and I actually had trouble cumming like 30 minutes later.

 

Tell him to slow down and take his time, you enjoy it so much that you want him to be inside you all night long don't put pressure on him, just help him to slow down, calm down, relax

 

Yeah that's what I was thinking, because my boyfriend has to stop before like one minute. I was actually gonna ask the same question about that being premature ejaculation. In one sense, it's a compliment that he's that turned on by me.

It's also frustrating because I really enjoy having sex/making love and I know that I can cum fast too (for a girl) like if I could just do it for 3 or 4 minutes I'd be able to orgasm and his size doesn't even bother me, because I believe it's how you use it too, I just need a bit longer than 1 minute.
He's taken a sexual enhancement pill on occasions so that he can cum, and then he stays completely hard and then I can go next, but we rarely get that pill because it's expensive and I don't like the thought of him having something like that in his system too often just incase it's pretty full-on or something. What can we do here?
We've also tried me getting him off first in other ways, but his second erection isn't as strong and just as I am about to go, it goes down and shit and that's probably more frustrating.
I told him to try the peeing exercises but he says he always forgets, and I know he gets frustrated with how fast he cums too and I feel sorry for him, I try not to make it a big deal or anything and I'm very careful of his feelings but yeah, I can just let it out on here and ask how we can solve this?? (preferably naturally)

 

most men last for 5 to 10 minutes and it is not premature ejaculation, but i have the opposite problem because i cannot come, i can go for hours of non stop sex. my minimum if i am in relationship is 1 hour and maximum 8-9-10 hours of non stop sex. i am a cappricorn by the way and we have a lot of stamina

 

Send him "downtown" for a little half-time snack...keeps you feeling good as well as gives him a chance to "slow his roll"....as in washing you hair..."rinse and REPEAT"...lol