I've got a problem. I've met a guy 4 years ago. He's really great and I love him very much. He's "the other half" for me. But the problem is, that he is also smart and decided to go to do PH.D. in Denmark. I live in Poland, so it's quite far away. He's going to study there for 3 years. Can anybody tell me if it makes any sense to stay in this relationship? I think that we will meet each other max once a month. All my friends tell me to finish this relationship but I really love this guy. What should I do?
If ya'll both love and trust each other, then its a good idea to continue the relationship(if he wants to) Meeting once a month is fine, but your travel expenses is gunna suck
distance between lovers isnt easy but when the love is strong and true and communication kept then it will make you stronger. LOVE can overcome anything trust me it really can. only you and your heart can answer the question you ask, id say stick with him, hes studying to build a better future for him and also for you too if you remain together. all best wishes to you and to him.
If you are living at a distance, there is always some chance that something said may be misinterpreted, or something not adequately communicated could become a confusing element, or lead to a misunderstanding that if not corrected could cause a rift in your relationship. But as has been said, love overcomes all things. Persistence doesn't hurt either. But there are no guarantees. It all depends upon your willingness, and his. One thing I might caution you about. If he's not ethically strong, having you as an intimate friend might just become a "backup" for him, if he becomes attracted to someone else. Being intimately related to someone already gives some personality types a "license to explore", since he's already got a "sure thing", he may think he can afford to risk failure with someone else, knowing that you'll still "be there". However, in thinking this, he would not be thinking of you, but only of himself. Having a long-distance "contract" is risky, but not impossible. It all depends upon the depth of commitment, on both of your parts. But eventually, you have to give him his freedom. He won't appreciate you as much if he learns to see you as a disciplinarian and a law-giver, rather than a friend.
beautifully put arthur you expressed things that i wanted to communicate too but hadnt the words...... communication is key and sometimes not easy to do at a distance over a computer when body language and tone of voice can't be seen heard or felt unless you have skype or something similar.
