Bi-curious buddy

Yesterday afternoon I had an interesting experience, and I want to see if some of the rest of you would have handled it the same way.

Last year I came out to a friend who works in the same building where I work but in a different department. He was very cool about it and nothing changed between us.

Yesterday afternoon he stopped at my place, something he rarely does. After some small talk, he said he had a bucket list, a list of things he wanted to do before he "kicked the bucket," aka died. One of them was to experience sex with a man.

He asked me for advice. I offered to be his experience. Frankly, he's my type and I don't think personals ads or hanging out in a bar would be the best way to go; he was very worried about discretion.

We ended up swapping blow jobs. He was reasonably talented and was fun to play with. Before we had sex, I told him that I wanted to keep the friendship even if things felt weird and that I would keep his secret. I also promised to stop if things got too uncomfortable or weird.

We chatted afterward about work stuff, and he said that then he felt weird.

Here's one detail that sticks with me. Before the sex, he insisted on examining my penis. I let him check out my cock and balls. I asked for him to do the same, and I noticed he was harder than Chinese arithmetic. He stayed quite hard even while he was going down on me.

As a result, I don't think he's 100% heterosexual.

After we had finished, I asked for his phone number because I had lost it and he gave it to me, so I don't think he's *too* weirded out by the experience. What do you all think?

 

He's probably no more weirded than anybody else would be after a first same-sex sexual experience

 

especially if he is unsure about his sexuality

 

Let me get this straight, you came to the conclusion that he may not be 100% heterosexual becuase he had a stiffy the whole time.

So it wasnt the bucket list line, wasnt that he said he wanted sex with a man, wasnt his pants around his ankles, wasnt swapping blowjobs with a guy.....it was the constant wood that gave him away

I think you'll find chinese arithmetic isnt as hard as you've been lead to believe

 

"Bucket Lists", "Too Many Drinks", "The Worst Case of Blue Balls", "My GF just broke up with me", "One Thing Led to Another"...

So, we have heard all of the above a countless number of times. Like it or not, these are socially acceptable, if often lame excuses for guys who wish to be seen as exclusively heterosexual to experiment with other guys, str8, gay, bi, pan, and "I-am-not-so-sure-guys", too.

There is absolutely no reason for you to focus on HIS sexual orientation. Why would this matter to you? He really may be str8 or actually gay or anything in-between. That´s really HIS business. What matters to you, is that he has swapped BJ with YOU. This goes on to say that he must have found you attractive (and available) enough to go for it.

If you feel like repeating this (or similar) experience with your friend, let him cool off for a few days, and pay him a return visit or come up with your own "bucket list" or similar story. If he goes along, and continues to do so, you have your answer written all over...

If he rejects you, you´ll move on. He´ll either tick it off or look for someone else to play around.

KD

 

Why would I focus on his sexual orientation? Because the sex was smoking hot and I'm up for a repeat.