I'm 18 years old, and started dating this one guy I worked with who is 22. We moved really fast, and started having sex almost right away, even though I was a virgin before that. This guy was actually like the first real romantic relationship I have ever been in, so I kind of just accepted whatever happened. We never even went out, we always just hung around his apartment. I didn't care, though, because he made me feel so sexy and good about myself, and it was fun. However, last night I went to his apartment again and we were fooling around in bed, and for some reason I could not get wet or anything. So he started getting a little rough, and frustrated, which made me feel so badly. Why do you think that happened? He turns me on and everything!
Him turning you on, is not a measure of what you mean to him. There are several easy temporary solutions to temporary dryness, But for him to respond by “getting a little rough, and frustrated, which made me feel so badly “. Is a really bad sign. If your feelings are less important to him than getting off sexually at that moment (for which there are other solutions), this kind of selfish indifference usually gets worse over time. If by “getting a little rough” means that he hit you or caused you physical pain or discomfort, you need to get out of that relationship now. Once physical abuse starts, It always gets worse. Feel lucky you found out now.
Your being used as a sexual outlet by a 22 year old loser. You don't have a relationship. Given enough time he will have you so beat down that you won't mind the bruising from the beatings he will be giving you. Good luck, you will need it.
Not getting wet can be for a lot of reasons that you may not realise at the time, maybe you were just physically tired but mentally aroused, or vice versa. Sure people get frustrated bacause they did not get what they wanted, and people can feel bad because they cannot give what someone else wanted, however each one still needs to respect that sometimes it is not possible to get it right, and there is no excuse to get rough or take it out on someone else. There may be two questions here, why did I not get wet, why did he get rough.. You may be ready for real romance, while he still really just wants sex.
How long did you have foreplay? It takes my wife at least 30 minutes usually, unless she is abnormally horny, before she is ready to have something inserted into her vagina. Plus, if he is just fucking you and not doing anything romantic you might have trouble getting aroused. Another thing is your mind set. If you for some reason didn't get aroused as soon as you normally do, then you worry about why you weren't aroused, it keeps you from getting aroused. Another thing you might want to keep handy is some lubricant in case this happens again, like maybe KY jelly. I'm guessing if you lubricated him and you and inserted his penis, you would become aroused and the natural juices would start flowing. And as the other said, dump the ignorant prick and find someone who will apreciate you.
You guys sounded like you made a leap into this way too quick, careful.. you dont wanna end up being some sort of booty call to him. First of all, if you are rushing straight into sex dont expect to get wet immediately, sometimes that doesn't even happen with me! Try letting him rub your clitoris or fondle your breasts with his mouth or fingers, whatever way works. I find that always gets me instantly wet
Sounds like he just wanted to get laid by a virgin. Assuming you dont get the "oh he's my first, I love him so much" clingy thing goin for ya, I give it a month. (p.s--this guy sounds like a douche)
You present the classic argument for waiting to have sex. The guy used you for his personal gratification. He's immature and wants to take it out on you when he's not getting the response he wants. Have nothing else to do with him. He's only going to hurt you -- REALLY hurt you!
