I'm 17 (turning 18 on the 1st) and a good friend of mine is 29 (turning 30 in December). I met him back in March (and got a crush on him immediately), and started hanging out with him and his friends a few months later. They introduced me to a lot of shit, some good, some bad. Soon I was spending every day at his apartment, kicking it with him and his roommates, spending at least 3 nights a week there. He kept saying anyone over 21 shouldn't have anything to do with anyone under 18, which, granted, is solid advice. I never really picked up any vibes from him (I'm completely clueless when a guy's into me. Either he has to blatantly obvious or I don't get it) but he just seemed perfect to me. One night he, a friend of ours, and I stayed up after his roommates had passed out, listening to old hardcore and spinning a couple six packs. After a while he went to bed (he slept on a bed in the living room) and I curled up on one half of the couch while our friend lay on the other. He called for me to come over, and when I did we ended up sleeping together. About a week of us acting normally goes past, then we sleep together again and he and 2 of his roommates went out of town to a hardcore festival. The day after he left I got kicked out of my house, packed up my backpack, went to his apartment, and ended up moving in. His roommates girlfriend and I were talking and she told me that he (the guy I had a crush on) was "really into" me, but that she and a friend of ours had laughed at him for it because of the age difference. When he got back he had brought about 25 people with him, one of them being his ex-girlfriend, whom he seemed very close to. I was upset for a few days, but got over it. One night I was walking around the apartment looking for a place to sleep (it was crowded as fuck) and he rolled over and told me just to sleep with him. Which I did. A couple days later he left for good, saying that he'd be back in 2 weeks. When I expressed that I was bummed he hadn't told me he was leaving he got really pissed at me, said some bullshit about my age, and left. He left back in June and hasn't come back yet (which was to be expected, he's a scumfuck traveler kid). I've had recurring nightmares about his death and can't forget about him. I'm not sure how he feels. It's so fucking weird. One minute he's fighting a dude for me and cleaning up my drunk puke, the next he's saying some bullshit about how I'm only 17. Allegedly one minute he's telling one of his closest friends he's into me, the next he's in fucking Detroit with another girl. Am I missing something? My heart aches for this guy, I feel more strongly for him than I ever have for anyone ever. What the fuck is going through his head?
You're jail bait and he wants to do you but doesn't want to go to jail? Seriously though, this is such a warped and retarded situation... you're not mentally nor emotionally ready for this kind of relationship. Don't be foolish about this. It will not end well. He is obviously a bit of a skeezer, and therefore is also not mentally or emotionally ready for a relationship (no matter the age difference) either. Just. Don't. Do. It. You will regret it if you do.
Move on while you still can! This guy sounds like he is just using you and others as well. Just run while ya still can...... Hate to say it but last thing ya want is a kid by this guy.
It's just he's so.... Him. This dude has done everything for me from cleaning my puke (and then lying to me about it) to fighting someone for me to taking care of me when I was going through a lot of bullshit. After he said the bullshit before he left the last time he could tell I was upset, gave me a hug, and, when I attempted to threaten him about not coming back, looked me in the eye and said "what are you gonna do? Be passive aggressive at me?" I just really love that dude. Thorabeard has it right, though. I guess. I don't want it to be true, though.
12 years is a big age difference. My grandma was your age when she married my grandpa (your friend's age). When he got sick, she was bewildered and alone. She had to grow up at the age of 60 (because she went straight from being a kid at home to married and he took care of her) and she had to basically become his all-day everyday nurse. It was really difficult on her and she's been kind of lost ever since he passed away 7 years ago. You don't really think about that kind of thing when you're young, but it's something to consider. You're young, you've got a lot of life ahead of you, and he's not the only guy in the world. Maybe give it awhile. Grow up a little. If he comes back around, maybe you can give it a shot when you're a little older. Don't forget, you're young, and you've still got some changing to do yourself. Don't dwell on him or obsess over whether or not he's coming back. He might be, he might not. You have other fish to fry, and plenty of time to worry about love.
Hmmm,, when people say you may not be that mature at the moment, thats relative to other girls. Relative to him , and lets face it, most guys, you sound like the mature one. Why did you get kicked out of home, bit of a terror are you? People will see a post written by a 17 year old girl and jump to the conclusion, oh she's all vulnerable and naive; not always the case I dont know, just the way you talk, methinks you'll get over this one soon enough, and the next one will be an improvement A lot of people will give you fake advise when they are really just pissy about the age difference, I mean, whats the alternative? Guys your age? I'm sure you know what they are like
I got kicked out for fighting with my mom's fiance too much. I'm mature. Still slightly naive, but mature. He and I are just mature in different ways. He's been riding trains and hitch hiking for years. We've had different things to face and it's matured us differently. It's made me want to grow up and left him with a Peter Pan complex. And I've been trying to get over this one for a while. I've been trying to get over this one since he left for the hardcore festival in May. Every time I'm almost there, though, I have this fucking nightmare that he's dead and I wake up shaking/crying and inconsolable. PS: Fuck any age difference where the younger party is at least 16 and semi-mature.
Hmmmm, I think you'll end up working out thats not the main reason you got kicked out, the real reason your mum is never going to say out loud. Regardless she did end up siding with her current squeeze over her own daughter...Hmmmm Yeah, the way you talk, Peter Pan complex, you're 17 he's 12 yrs older, yet you still have to babysit him somewhat I saw Trent Reznor (Nine Inch Nails) back in January at the Soundwave festival here in Aus, he's 46 now, and fuck me dead he looked better than he ever has, and quite possibly the hottest guy I've ever seen in real life. Whether I be 40 now, or if I was 17, wouldnt change all the naughty things I want to do to him. With Guys its how hot they are, not how old. Your one, still sounds like he has a bit of growing up to do, may not seem like it now, but as I said you'll probably find you'll get over him soon, cos It sounds like you can do better - not all that sexy in the end if you have to keep playing mum, especially if they are twice your age
What's not to like about 17 year old pussy? Especially when it's easily available and all googly eyed over you. Yep, I remember those days. I can tell you for a fact, if he cleaned up your puke, he is in lust. If he was in love, he would have made you clean it up. Sorry but life is rough.
He cleaned it up when I was blacked out and passed out, then when I woke up told me I only puked into the backyard and everything was fine. I didn't learn the truth until weeks later. That same night he beat the shit out of this one dude for me (the dude had started punching me out of nowhere). And I'm pretty sure he didn't (doesn't?) know I'm googly eyed over him. Losing my virginity to one of his roommates probably threw him off that trail.
cleaning up puke is really not that impressive. i get the impression a lot of substances are consumed in this house, so i'm sure puke is a pretty regular occurrence. also, this:
Not really. I was the first person to puke there in a while. And the only substances that were regularly consumed there were beer, once in a while hard liquor, cigarettes/rollies, and weed. I only saw one hard drug there once.
Most, if not all girls when your age or younger,get their first jerk. Time to move on to your second one. Clarity comes with experience. Most of the time.
I've already had my first one. A shitty junkie I quit talking to within a week (and who, fortunately, I never slept with.) And what's so poor about my situation?
Wouldn't do me or you any good to explain it. Well, let's put it this way--I wouldn't want my 17 year old to be on her own in a house with a bunch of older people drinking , strangers coming and going and being without her own space to sleep. Good way to get in trouble/pregnant. No matter--a few years down the road and you'll understand what my concern for you is. Take care and watch yourself.---------
Everyone got evicted (inability to pay rent, inability to keep holes out of the walls, inability to respect the backyard, etc.) so I'm living with my brother now. And yes, I understand your concerns, but the flaws were what made me love it. The magic of that apartment couldn't be recreated in a different time with different people. And part of it was that they knew I was young, they knew I was inexperienced, they knew they were the ones introducing me to a lot of what was happening there. So they looked after me. I was treated like a baby sister by most of them. When I showed up freaked the fuck out after my mom booted me I didn't even have to ask before I was given permission to move in. They fed me. They taught me how to look after myself. They turned me into a decent, self-reliant human being. Sure it was a shit show, but it was home.
Good. Sounds like they were decent to you. I'm glad you had a learning experience that turned out well. I'm old,so you may be able to understand what my concerns were for you------------take care of yourself and have some fun.-------Joel
