Hi! My boyfriend just left to go to school in Washington. We had only been dating for two months, and I knew ahead of time that he was only here during the summer and he would be going back to Seattle. I told him before he left that we should just be friends until he's done with school and can stay in one place for good. He wants to continue dating, though, and that's a bit of a problem for me. It's not that I want to date other people, that's not it at all. It's just that if we are dating, I will always wonder what's going on behind my back, several miles away from me, while he's going to college and probably attending parties (nothing wrong with parties, just saying, certain things go on there). I want to trust him implicitly, but like I said, we had only known each other for a couple months, so I don't really know him THAT well. I also run the risk of losing him for good if he decides "just being friends" isn't good enough for him. Should I lose the complex and just trust that he's staying faithful?
If you are questioning this, then it's not worth the stress. If it's meant to be, you two can be friends and see what happens after he graduates.
This sounds right. I'd go further, and say as long as you guys are open and honest and stay in close touch with each other, you'll both know what should or shouldn't happen. The key will be the honesty and openness about how you're feeling.
