TOTALLY confused! Please help

LLol

 

He probably is bi. He may just be having a hard time coming to terms with it. I struggled for years with being bi. I only dated (and actually had a kid) with a guy. But I did have a sexual encounter with another woman. It was so fun. But because of how I was raised and grew up, it would have been frowned upon to continue with those feelings. Maybe is conflicted with the same emotions and embarrassement as I, and a lot of us have encountered with friend's and family. As all of us know alcohol gives us "liquid courage". He probably felt comfortable telling you (with help from the alcohol). And just like the comment above, NO MAN would do that unless they had true feelings like that. I don't believe any man could be able to go as far as you two did and be faking it. I am not a man, but i know how men are not exactly the touchy-feely type with other men, unless he IS bi. So make no mistake on what he tells you. Actions speak SO much louder than words. Trust that!

 

Thank you so much! I truly believe your comment! We do still text each other a lot late a night. And he told me that he would never drink with me in front of other people. I guess he is "scared" that he might do something with me in front of friends?

And I know we were drunk...but you could definitely tell that feelings were there...especially coming from him.

 

Awwwww he is so precious

 

:love: ...I can only hope lol

 

Alcahol alone wouldn't be enough for him to go that far if he was heterosexual. If what you say is true, he certainly isn't straight. Though perhaps he doesn't consciously realise that he isn't straight, or he's to embarrassed to admit it. In any case, if he has a girlfriend, you need to respect that and not try and act on whatever feelings you have for him

 

I agree. Thanks for the advice also. I'm just gonna let him take his course... if he wants to do anything... I'm sure he'll let me know.

 

You're friend is not confused because he knows damn well that you freak him out. He's afraid of what you represent, bud. He wants a (heterosexual) family someday, something you can never produce. He's going through dramatic changes in his life, and God knows what goes on in his family, what the parents pressure him with. He's full of fear, no doubt about that. I remember that time period, and having a girlfriend was like a status symbol and so on. He might be bi, whatever, even though you said that he's gotten bjs from girls, but have you seen it happen? Since you mentioned that he's very feminine, those two are probably "sisters." But, that's beside the point. The gf probably serves as a security blanket, not just a cover. And from what I've gathered, he's HOT for you (but you didn't have to toot your own horn about how goodlooking you are, lol). Alas, relationship is not just a one-way street, and it takes a certain maturity to see it, accept it, and move on. More than likely, you'd get tired of the "whirlwind" heat..., or being dumped upon. "I don't remember a thing" (clue #1) -- watch Boys in the Band (the movie)...

 

Thanks...you're right! A "security blanket"! ...but i dont really know what you mean by I'm "freaking him out"?? lol


by the way, he told me that he wants to get drunk with me again.

 

In his case, the sexual urge is stronger than the intellect. He probably wrestled with some of his demons since last night..., and decided to keep you as the "master of the horse" (male mistress), or prep you up as one since you're such an "impetuous brute."

 

gay boi alert!!!! :dupe:

 

The next time y'all get drunk u should blow him

 

play the pink oboe

 

Don't just play it master it!

 

+..I Will Never Look At My Broom The Same Way Again..........:2thumbsup:



Cheers Glen.

 

I'm just nervous he won't want me to though... hmmmmm

 

Are you feminine as well? I'm not saying that there's something wrong with that, and in fact, I find many feminine young guys sexy, but you sound like one..., or a bit desperate. I, however, have never met a working feminine couple, and it seems to me he's the pants under the skirt. Prioritize, and assess your sexual role. From what I've gathered, he's the pleaser type, in that situation. Dude, he's hot for you -- start from there, if you know what I mean. Then again, I'm the dominant type; I don't have this problem.

 

Dont be afraid buddy,you wont ever know then!

 

Who said he had a choice unbuckle his pants drop to yo knees

 

I have a feeling he wouldn't mind...i might as well give it a shot! lol


And no, im the total opposite of feminine. lol