Hey guys, I'm pretty new to this site and I desperately need your advice on an issue. Now, I have posted this matter on another website but got no replies so I thought I may get good advice from you lot. Well here is the problem. The thing is I am a virgin; I’ve had relationships where I thought – ‘okay, he’s the one’. But then these guys turn around and become complete pigs. My recent ex broke up with me over the phone (ouch) and that’s when I thought – ‘fuck this, I just want to know what it feels like to be intimate with someone’ and since the guys I’ve dated did not match up to my expectations, I decided to go online and meet men. So, I sign up on this website and I’m soon contacted by this guy who clearly states that he just wants someone to have regular fun with (fuck buddy), so we meet up and we find out that we are perfectly okay with each other. While out having drinks (the meet-up) we decided that we would have a non-exclusive arrangement where we could have sex with each other and other people. I am totally fine with that. Then he doesn’t text for days on end so I thought – ‘maybe he didn’t like what he saw after all’ and I decided to forget about him. Three weeks later, he finally texts with all these naughty things he would like to do to me, some of them I’m not totally comfortable with (like anal) and when I try to tell him that I wouldn’t like that, he still goes ahead and suggest them. Then he comes up with the idea for me to lose my virginity in a threesome with him and another of his FBs (hello, virgin here!) and I was like – ‘er what?! I know I said we would be non-exclusive but that is just going too far’. To cut the story short, he just keeps suggesting these lewd things (knowing fully well that I'm a virgin) and I just keep entertaining them . I am going to his place soon but I’m not sure I want to fuck him now. I mean, I’m perfectly ready to lose my V-card but I’m not sure he’s the right one to lose it to. I’m not expecting candles, flowers and love songs, just normal sex between two people. Another thing is the age difference, he’s 20 years older than I but it seems he’s way too experienced than I am. I’m so confused. Can anyone please give me advice on this. Also, does anyone know the basic cardinal rules of a fuck buddy arrangement? Any response will be appreciated. Thanks.
whoa, it just sounds like u set up the perfect context for a rape. im not joking here, run away before its too late, seriously
Yeah that dude sounds sketchy and slimey. I'm assuming you're young. What the hell are you thinking? You really gonna lose your virginity in such a meaningless situation? Look, the guy is pretty much a stranger, you mean nothing to him other than satisfying his sexual fantasy. C'mon, do you really need us to tell you not to fuck with this scumbag? If you're gonna throw it away like that then go do a nice guy a favor and find a young dude who is maybe a virgin to and rock each others world...after you fumble around the frist couple times lol.
I think you're asking about this on a forum because you know somewhere that it's not a good idea. Please, don't do it, you will regret it. What do you mean you aren't expecting romance? like that's ridiculously too much to ask, if you want that, or a close friendship, or any other circumstances you can get it. Don't do this with some guy you met online and hardly know who has shown no sensitivity to your feelings, he's looking at you as a toy. If you don't need it to be love then okay, but at least do it with someone who likes you, cares about you at least a little. Have patience, there are a million guys out there who would fuck you, and a few thousand who would love you, don't let some guy use your body like a toy just because he's willing.
I agree, if you're so eager to give it away this would be better. At least the young nice guy would care if you felt good and you could learn together, make each other feel good and have a good time. The dude your talking about is just going to bang you, cum fast, and leave.
You may want to ask yourself if you have been soldf to the highest bidder .... that could explain the time he let pass before contacting you .... A fuck buddy arrangement can be a nice thing, but you need to be VERY clear about what you're getting yourself into. In my opinion it should be strictly "no strings attached". Also: you are playing a game that you have NO experience whatsoever in, so someone is likely to take advantage of you sooner or later .... Now go have some fun
It can, and usually the term buddy is used because this is such a casual arrangement, as opposed to say a boyfriend or a lover, but in this case I don't even think this guy could be considered a buddy. This guy doesn't give half a shit how she feels about things.
I would say pass on this guy. He may be FB material (IMO, he's not but to someone else he might be) but he does not know how to treat a person. If he had any insight into human nature he would know that you being a virgin requires a soft touch (physically, emotionally and mentally) and he does not seem to have that.
i can sympathize with just wanting to do it. you may not think it's special now. if your instincts are telling you "don't do this", you are almost sure to regret it in the future. wait for a good, understanding guy.
