my girlfriend and I are sexually active, but not completely. We do basically everything except actual sex, but I had a quick question. Today, I was fingering her, and she was really into it, so I went deeper than I ever have and she loved it, and it resulted in a rather intense orgasm. So, my question is, I've read that the g spot feels spongey, and it kind of felt that way, but not exactly. It seemed way deeper than I thought though. My middle and ring finger were both in her as far as they could go, and it was suddenly tighter and a different texture. Was this the g-spot?
To reach the g-spot you need to enter two fingers into her and curl them up in a 'come hither' motion. Were you doing that? Bear in mind that the g-spot is only about 2-3 inches in, so if you were pushing your fingers into her as deep as they could go, it probably wasn't her g-spot you were stimulating. But if it felt good for her who really cares?!
It sounds like you hit her cervix. Her G spot is not actually that deep inside her, only about 2 inches in, and at the top of the vagina. Generally the cervix is not pleasurable to stimulate afaik but she was probably just getting off on how deep you were inside her.
Whatever it was, she loved it! Thought it might be the cervix, and I didn't think it was that deep. I've hit the g-spot before then. Seemed to like this more.
The cervix is firm and not spongee and you can trace all the way around and find the entrance. You can tell them apart very easily.
You have to keep in mind that the vagina is not a static thing - it's shape changes throughout different stages of excitemnt - and of course no two are exactly alike. I think it's quite possible that you found her g-spot. The "the tighter" experience was probably her muscle contracting (involuntarily). And it's also possible that you found her cervix. I'm not particularly large, but I once had a girlfriend who's cervix was not terribly deep and I had to be careful not to bump it during very deep penetration, she didn't like the sensation. I've been with other women who's cervix I never hit. The diagram above gives a pretty good approximate location of the g-spot, but keep in mind that it varies quite a bit with regard to depth.
so how can the guy know that he reachs it or no?? can we feel anything and what touch do u suggest .. hard, soft, etc...?
Sounds conceievable that you hit her a-spot. There are 3 main spots for a women: clit; g-spot and a-spot. We have already covered where the g-spot is located but the a-spot is actally a lot deeper, probably around about where you described. Most girls find the a-spot pleasurable, and i normally stimulate with my girlfriend whilst having 2 fingers inside her as far as possible and then feeling it at finger tips, just close enough to play with. It may pay you to do more research into this outside of the forum, just google a-spot and you will find explanations. For those more well endowed of us can find we can hit it during penitrative sex of some form, different positions being betterthan others. This is where the age old belief of size matters comes from. Keep experimenting with it all the same, and a little more research may help you find the best ways to pleasure her in this manner
It's also possible that you hit her Z-spot. For those who are even more well-endowed - it's not unusual to actually penetrate and navigate the circulatory system and whereupon one will eventually hit upon the little known Z-spot which is actually located in the pleasure center of the brain and through direct stimulation of this pleasure center a flood of serotinin and endorphins are forcibly released culminating in a literal mind-blowing and permanent orgasm. Be careful with this one - it can result in massive cranial hemorrage.
