i cant get over my ex bf. no matter what i do

he cheated he ended it he hurt me and it was mostly a lust-full relationship but i dontt understand why i cant get over my first love. is it really that hard. or that sometimes i still get txt from him that makes me feel like he still cares. oh yaa hes dating my supposidly "good friend". dayumm.

 

u will get over it, with time. i've been there, and i know how u can be convinced that it won't happen, but trust me it will.
u'll get over him, and one day u'll look back and think "whoa im so over this guy, its crazy how much time i used to spend thinking about such an @sshole"

 

I may be a guy, but I've been in a similar situation. Still keeps me up into weird hours of the morning, cant get the thoughts out of my head. Just keep your mind in front of you, and keep your mind with what your looking at. Live in the moment. Try your best. I know its one of the hardest things to deal with, it stays with you for the rest of your life and I empathize with you.

The best thing to do is stop talking to him. Don't even give that dis-respectful prick the time of day. Ignore him. He's only texting you to make HIMSELF feel better, and making your situation worse every time he reminds you of his existence. Its selfish pity disguised as kindness. Don't buy it. I had to deal with the same shit. He feels guilty because of what he did to you, but he didn't care enough to cheat in the first place. If you are going to talk to him, make sure you let him know how much it hurts, and how badly it hurts. Maybe then he'll feel some REAL guilt. Hopefully.

You'll get through it, just give it your best and keep him out of your mind.

Peace!

 

thxx im justt soo tiredd of itt. and yesterday he texted mee and was upsett and gonna kill himselff and i was tryinn not to be a bitch n i was tryinn to be their for him as a friend and he started gettin pissed sayinn i dont care about him cus ive slept with other guys now and moved on.. and i tried to explain i tried to move on cus he moved on to my best friend. and i dontt get why some guys can be suchhhh dickss!

 

i realize its difficult to ignore someone u still have feelings for. but that guy cheated on u! he doesnt respect u, he doesnt care about u, he's being selfish by keeping u around. next time he texts u, u should probably be honest and tell him "look i am not over u, i hurt, if u care about me please stop texting me".

 

thats a double hurt. but ya you will get past that.just give it time.you get what you settle for in this world.so never settle for anything less than you deserve.just put it down to expereince and let time do the rest.:sunny:

 

Short answer...guys that are dicks get laid. Nice guys don't. Guys want to get laid...see the math?

 

woman up and move on

 

soo true

 

It's hard, especially when you feel rejected. I'm still coping with the rejection from my ex-boyfriend and it's been 6 and a half years and I've been in a serious relationship for 6 of those years. I never really was in love with him, very infatuated and lustful, I suppose. But the way things ended...I guess I just never got closure from him, so it still bothers me a little. All the other guys I've dated and broken up with eventually patched things up, but he just spent a lot of time fucking with my head instead. Now I still just wonder what it was, why I wasn't good enough. I know it doesn't matter what he thinks, it's his loss, but I guess it's just hard to accept that someone would use me the way he did. But you just have to realize it's not him you're sad over, it's the feeling of rejection. And the best way to get over that is to realize you're better off. It's just not easy to do, lol.