Hey you guys... I was originally gonna vlog on YouTube, but I thought it's be dangerous cuz of fam so I decided to join this forum. I've been trying to figure out my sexuality for a long time. I think I'm gay, but I have been attracted sexually and emotionally to this one guy. My first kiss was with a girl when I was eight years old then back in 9th grade I met my first girlfriend and in 10th grade I had my first sexua lexperience with a girl, which was amazing until I came home and my mother interrogated me. Before school ended, in June I came out to my mother and it was okay at first, but she was heart broken and wanted to disown me, even said she went to court for the papers and honestly that broke my heart too, I couldn't see my mother like that.So soon enough we had a talk and we came to eh conclusion together that I was "confused". My aunt and I kinda talked about it, because she saw how down my mother was...I didn't give her all the details, but the thing is she believed she could change me...which they can't...my mother was saddened cuz she grew up with a diff. mindset and when some1 grows up with certain ideas it's hard to change the patterns in their head...even children of a young age, but...I jus need help, what do you guys think?...btw ...I'm a virgin, I've never been with a guy.
Be yourself, Do what makes you happy. Parents grew up in different times with different rules and mindsets as you said, so you can't expect them to understand and I think I would be offended if a family member told me they could "change" me. Do what makes you happy and never let anyone change who you are. Oh and sorry i read this since im a guy =P but girl/guy whatever, where all human beings.
You have to do what makes you happy you should never try to change who you are intrinsically as a human being just to please your family. Asking someone to change who or what they are just so they can feel comfortable isn't loving in my humble opinion. Telling someone you will disown them because they are a lesbian isn't very fair its downright manipulative. True she grew up in a different time but all of this could be her reacting out of fear for how people are going to treat you. Times are changing and she may come around eventually she probably had dreams of you growing up getting married and having a family which is still possible for you to achieve its just going to be with a woman not a man. I would recommend attending a PFLAG meeting or perhaps getting the book Love,Ellen by Betty DeGeneres for you or your mother to read. I would also recommend Confessions of a Heartland Country Singer by Chely Wright so your mother can understand what its like to always hide who you are and the ramifications of doing so can affect you. I think those books would help you too.
just do how you feel. if people get mad at you. your gonna have to deal with it how ever you can. its your life. do what makes you happy.
