So me and my girlfriend (both 18) have been together for about six months and have been trying on and off to have sex for like 4 months or so (i cant really remember). I am an extremely sex addicted, or thats just me being a guy, but its frustrating me that we cant have intercourse. What puzzles me is that we have tried just about everything and cant really seem to get it. My girlfriend really wants to have sex. But the problem is that she isnt loose enough yet. She says her cherry was popped a few years ago when her bf was fingering her. She later went to the bathroom and saw blood and she was like , "i dont have my period, wtf?" she isnt the most sexually experienced so she was confused what had happened. She later found out her cherry had just been popped. Anyhow, people say to finger her to get her loose, but everytime i do that she says it either feels uncomfortable or hurts. We have been trying for months now so i dont see how this would still work. We recently decided to get a dildo to help. We have used it twice, with lube, but we end up stopping because it hurts or it feels weird. Im not like jamming my fingers in there or thrusting the dildo in wicked hard. Im being really gentle and cautious. Also she doesnt masturbate because she thinks its gross, so she doesnt really know what feels good for her and how to get herself off. Any advice?
Maybe you should just eat her out and finger fuck her for a while.. When I was a teenager,, my first GF was tight. Like a feeding a quarter into a dime slot.. Took a while, maybe months before I slammed the dick hard in her.. Maybe your just looking out for your own interests in getting the dick wet.. She has a mouth too, dont she?.. Take your time.. you only get to fuck a virgin once..
i finger her all the time and it bugs me that anything feels good to her. ive eaten her out before and she says she thinks its gross and said it also didnt really do anything. is there like some kind of medical condition this could be?
that wouldn't explain the eating out part, she could just imagine :hes: a she and get over it and move on.... Weight and height of this Lover you got OP.. Is she a small framed person?
Just sounds like she's young and not knowledgeable about her body yet. I was there once before too, but I rubbed one off often atleast lol. Take your time, if it continues to actually "hurt" then she should see a Dr. But she's gonna just have to keep trying to get comfortable and used to the feeling of penetration..
What size was the dildo you used? A lot of inexperienced buyers go with these stupidly unrealistic schlongs. You need something nice and slim. And she needs to use it in the downtime. It's like using butt plugs for anal training. Start small and work your way up.
shes around 5'2" 115lbs. we use around a 5 inch dildo, and its like half the width of my actual penis. But she grossed out my touching her self and my eating her out, but i dont know what else to try anymore. she complains it hurts and she is frustrated that we cant get it in. And she doesnt want to go to the doctor because she doesnt want her mom to know about all this.
Sounds like she has an issue with sexual stimulation, which would explain her problem with you. Some young women feel this way. People come into their sexuality at different times. Just let her be comfortable and hope for the best.
If a woman is not relaxed her pussy will tighten up so tight you can't get anything in, not even your little finger. A pussy has some very strong muscle surrounding it and when tense it does not matter if she wants to have sex or not, it will not happen (at least not the kind of sex you and she want). If she has had bad experiences in her past that is another obstacle you both will have to overcome. It is not something she can control consciously. She needs to feel secure physically and emotionally. Thomas
Agree with Thomas ... cuddle, stimulate her mind as well as her body ... be slow, patient without frustration --- if she is worth it then play her entire body, make her relax with you, confident with herself ... shit my wife who I have been with for years, was sexually active before I met her, we have three kids together is tight as a drum now, can't take pentration a lot of which is her own concept of her own body & age. She thinks she is fat (5'6" 120 # marathon runner) and old, 57 and looks and acts like she is 37. Its all in the mind, the greatest and at times the worse sex organ in the body. If it were me ... Oral pleasure would be the opener to your pleasure ... Cheers & Good Luck!
I'm bisexual and I hate it, too. But I don't necessarily think that's the problem here. She's probably just terrified shitless and too tense to do anything.
i read on a cosmo about the lotion challenge. The girl has to spread lotion all over your chest, using her bare tits. After snuggling and kissing and touching naked in my bed for like a half i told my girlfriend about the challenge. At first she was hesitant but then my girlfriend loved it. we did it for like an hour. and then we decided to go get condoms. so we went and got condoms and tried to get it in. After a little fingering and playing with a dildo for like 5 minutes, we finally got it it. I wasnt able to thrust all the way in or thrust really hard because she said it hurt. But hopefully after doing this a few more times it will finally start to feel good to her. However i was thrusting for a good 15-20 min. and it wasnt really feeling good to me. It just felt like, nothing really. Is it because i masturbate too much or was it because i wasnt able to thrust really hard? Im kinda concerned.
When I first started having sex it was kinda painful. It wasn't till I learned to relax that I started to enjoy it. My suggestion would be lots and lots of lube, even on your fingers and see how that goes.
It is said that the brain is the biggest sex organ, take your time to arouse each other. This site has some great info, wish I had this in my teens http://www.scarleteen.com/
just eat her pussy until it really wet. as wet as you can make it then just try putting the head in and go in and out nice and slow. but make sure that you guys are talking to eachother and stop if it hurts.
sounds like you guys r thinking too hard! she needs to let loose and relax...im 5'2 and 100 lbs and i can have sex just fine.... you have to get her really excited too (wet)..it should be easy if she gets excited...should just glide in! lol! Best of luck!!!
