would you pursue a girl in a band?

I dunno. I just can't get past it. she's meeting so many people... it just... intimidates me... like out of all the people who go to her shows... i'm bound to be forgotten... like i keep telling myself don't be a dumbass. that shouldn't matter. but i still just feel really intimidated....

 

why not just be lax about it.. not every relationship in life has to be a LTR.. get it while the gettin's good

 

Depends what she plays, if shes lead vocal or lead guitar, she's the most risky and usually likes all the attention. Drummers usually are short, or chunky, or looka lika man, but that usually means theyre more into kinky stuff and most likely will be the one that would like you the most(if that makes sense). Bassists usually feel like they have something to prove, they're the most likely to have self esteem issues.

 

^ haha what the hell

honestly, it wouldn't hurt to try. for all you know, you could be missing out on something awesome here.

 

yeah thanks. I definetly want to say fuck it and go for it. I just can't help but feel like I'm just yet ANOTHER dude who is after her... seeing as so many see her.

 

plus i'm not in a band which makes me feel a bit insecure...

 

Think about it this way. Dudes will be after her. You are one of those dudes. BUT you have just as much of a chance as any of those others. SOMEBODY is gonna get her (probably, at some point), so why the hell should it not be you?

 

yeah just act like those typical creeps and you're good :tongue:

 

Lol, go test my theory. I've got a ton of friends in bands, whose shows I have to attend for the most part or they get their feelings all butt hurt. I see enough chick bands, or girls that play an instrument to get the idea of what I mean

 

No, not for a relationship anyway. Ive been in bands and the girls i met were either lesbians or very much into free love

 

well with what beadyeye says. yeah i mean. probably relationship wouldn't be the best way. but like i just if anything want to be friends with her. and not just like a number on facebook friends. but like actual hang out friends. i still just don't even know how to approach that tho. i'm not in a band. i'm musical as fuck, but still not in a band. im not in her world. so i just feel like i don't belong in a way

 

it depends. alice glass? yes. alison krauss? yes. grace potter? probably not, because she looks like shes been with a million dudes. the lovell sisters? yes, all three of them.