Need Questions For Wife

I found out recently that my wife likes her hair pulled and for me to be a bit rough with her. My wife wont tell me what she likes, she tells me, I cant tell you. So I want to give her a list of questions, maybe about 50 or so that are all over the place sexually so i can get a bit of insight on what she wants sexually, I'll try anything she wants, just dont want to pry it out of her and embarress her. A survery would be a great way and she would answer it this way. Anyone have one?

 

ask her if she wants you to tie her up?

 

thats what i'm looking for, now about 40 more, lol. I want a whole range of questions. Married 5 years and I dont know her sexually because she is so timid but the other night i pulled her hair and she went crazy, so what else does she like??? So If I can get her to just say yes or no on survey, i can start to make some of her desires become reality

 

You might be able to pull up a survey somewhere. "Sex questionnaire survey" in google or something.

 

I tried that and it was all over the place, i rather get real answers from the board than a professional one from a psychologist who hasnt had sex in 25 years.

1. Being Tied up
2. Anal
3. Another sex partner male/female/both
4. Video Taped

 

role-playing (daddy-daughter, mother-father, sibling, rape, etc) (if you do this make sure you DEFINATELY have a safe-word incase things go too far and one of you gets hurt or it goes into the realm of not comfortable)

BDSM on all levels from light spanking to electro-teasing and such and if she likes to be the dom or sub lol (might be your best bet for having tons of different questions) (also, again with safe-word)

being watched/having an audience while masturbating or having sex

dirty talk (or how dirty does she like it for example i love being called a dirty slut and a whore while having sex, but outside of that, i would deck the person)

biting in certain places (neck, wrists, inner thighs) or licking (toes/feet, asshole, neck, tits)

eating her out while using a vib on her = two awesome stimuli at once

wearing certian things like uniforms or fish nets

 

Just keep trying new things and see how she reacts. You tried the hair pulling and she seemed to love it. "Survey" her that way.

 

this. i almost guarantee that she won't be turned on by filling out a worksheet.

 

Do you like ....

Being slapped?

Spanked with a paddle?

Manhandled?

Forced to give oral?

Forced to give anal?

Having your clothes torn?

Having your nipples squeezed hard?

Being fucked until you are sore?

 

I third this, just raise the bar a little at a time, if you go over the line it's not like she'll kill you. As with all sex, you have to be aware of what your partner is feeling. It's usually better to occasionally go to far then to be a dud, especially if she's letting you know she wants you to be more out there.

 

dude...pass on all the above...father daughter is not hot or even sane...your wife will be creeped out if you pretend she is your daughter....

 

^^^ Well, men always tell me to call them daddy -- even if they are my age!

Right now I'm dating an older man who calls me "baby girl" and there is definitely a sexualized daddy-daughter dynamic there. So, who knows she might like it.


(With this guy I do like it, with others, yeah, it was kind of creepy).

 

You could go the questionairre route like you're doing or you can speak w/ her and maybe you'll find out that she'd rather you simply try new things and let you know if you're crossing any lines. If you do that she really should understand that in doing so you're taking a risk of being rejected so if you do cross the line she'll have to learn to be sensitive about it.

But here are some ideas for you.

blindfolding
being blindfolded
being wrapped in saran
outdoor sex
role playing - ie you meet at a park as strangers, does she want you to kidnap her or she kidnap you?
Body painting
Showering each other
washing her hair
mailing presents to each other - could be anything from a love letter to crunchy underwear.
hot wax
watch porn together
make a porn together
tie her up and get her clit realll raw, she'll beg you to stop but don't stop. For this you might want to agree on a word that if she says only then do you stop.

Some of these things might seem kindda tame compared to pulling hair but realize, just because she enjoys hair pulling doesn't mean she wants you to get utterly crazy on her. Some tame things are good too.

 

I'm not sure about that.
It all depends on how you play the game.

 

maybe for some people it seems normal...but it never will be normal or acceptable for ME and i would be willing to bet i am part of a huge majority on this particular fantasy...it creeps me out...we arent talking about sugar daddies...we are talking about dudes that get hard ons during daughter role play...i will never agree that its ok...its creepy to the max


took the dude 5 years to squeeze her nipples...i hardly think he should jump to role playing with incestuous overtones

 

Actually I'm willing to bet that more women like it than most people would realize.

http://www.google.com/search?q=do+w...-us&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&startIndex=&startPage=1

I think every woman I've ever been w/ and a few that I wasn't w/ but we discussed found such a thing to be quite a turn on.
The same pretty much applies to fantasies of force - which I find quite disturbing.

About the only thing I find disturbing about daddy fantasies are when women who have experienced some form sexual abuse like it. Now that is disturbing.

 

I don't think it's disturbing because psychologically as a girl is developing she has her first crush on her dad and sort of develops by using him as a pseudo-boyfriend. If you believe Freud's extreme version of this theory, he thinks the girl wants to replace her mom and marry the dad (female version of Oepidal complex/Electra complex).

I remember being 7 or 8 and trying to experimentally tongue-kiss my dad after seeing people do it on a soap opera. He just turned, kissed me on my cheek, gave me a swat on the butt and sent me on my way. I was like "Damn. I almost had him." :sunny:

In my opinion it's quite healthy.

Now, when I have a daddy-daughter dynamic with my boyfriends, my actual father doesn't figure into the picture AT ALL. So I don't know how in the world it could be creepy.

It's not even about your actual father. It's symbolic. It's about the whole dynamic of a protector, guardian becoming a lover.... it's like the most complete relationship you can have with a man ...it encompasses both paternal love and erotic love. Someone who teaches you, guides you, looks out for you, chastises you ... fucks you. So complete, safe, and fulfilling. :love:

 

i think it's disturbing that you think that's normal...

 

Second this.

The reason your wife says she can't tell you is probably because she wants you to surprise her. If she knows what's coming, it won't be as exciting for her.