I've been in a serious cohabiting relationship for 5 years, and after 1 session with a new therapist my girlfriend came to the conclusion that she is a lesbian. I am uncontrollably upset for 3 reasons 1. The fact that I'm 30 years old I've found out that the only woman to say that she's been in love with me was really just confused the whole time. 2. I feel that I'm becoming an angry bitter spiteful person. I saw a lesbian couple on the street yesterday and I "dug into them", insulted, cursed and even used derogatory language until they were both crying. 3. I feel that this is going to keep happening. Looking back on my entire life more lesbians than straight women have called me a good looking guy and more lesbians that straight women have said that under different circumstances, they would date me....and just about every girl that has been interested in me or gave me the time of day, ended up either coming out as gay within a couple of years or is in blatant self denial. Every straight girl I've ever pursued has been less than interested. I just don't know what to do with all this anger and Hurt, I can't even watch Rachel Maddow because it makes me too upset, or go to my friend's sister's Lesbian wedding next week. She's a very pretty girl (Victoria's secret pretty) and like my ex, she did the exact same thing to a man she was dating, whom to the best of my knowledge NEVER recovered from that, even though it's been 4 1/2 years.
Being bitter and spiteful to the general public is not a good thing ... stop it. From what you are saying ... you may have an appearance of a gay man, woman love gay men, in general. Lesbians grow in numbers every day must undoubedly because the role and need for a man disminishes every day ... who makes more money now, who gets the better job? General the young woman over the young man. Men are becoming obsolete!
So it's not enough that I've been swindled, but you have to rub my face in it also? and as a side note, one of these girls was smokin hot, playmate hot! So it's not to the general public, just to someone whom I could tell was a trickster, an emotional con artist. I could tell that she's messed up at least a couple of guys heads!
Okay well just because someone is smokin hot doesn't mean that they're not part of the general public. Or a trickster/emotional con artist. Look, I'm sure this girl you were with did not have ill intentions when she was in this relationship with you. I'm sure she cares about you a lot, which could be why she didn't tell you for so long. Being gay is not easy and I think she was most likely trying to be true to herself, not trying to hurt you or emotionally con you. Obviously you are angry and hurt, and you have every right to be. I have been in a similar situation to a lesser degree and I can't even imagine how you must feel right now. But don't take your anger out on the people around you. It's not their fault and if you do that for too long you'll push people away from you, which you don't want. Sometimes we have to just deal with the cards we're dealt. You have to accept that what happened happened, realize it wasn't you or anyone else's fault, and move on with your life. Sometimes bad things happen and there's nothing you can do about it. I'm sure there is someone else out there who is not a lesbian who will love you for who you are. Those people are just difficult to find. I am definitely not professionally qualified to be giving advice in any way, but this is just how I would handle it. This is how I did handle it when something similar happened to me. Take it or leave it but I hope maybe it is of some help to you. I'm sorry that this happened to you.
In this world, intentions mean absolutely nothing! If you shoot me on purpose or by accident, it's the same result I DIE!! And yes in the game of life I have been dealt a terrible hand, this is far more than just the fact that I've been hustled. It's the fact that only closeted lesbians are interested. Looking back on it now, the girl I lost my virginity to was probably a lesbian, my 1st girlfriend in college came out 2 years ago, even this girl that approached me last night, fit the pattern. It's like I'm wearing a sign on my back that says "easy mark"
I do not agree with you about intentions, at least for certain situations. Being used and being with someone who likes you but is confused and scared are very different in my opinion. Obviously you will be hurt either way, but you can look at it in a different light if you choose to depending on the situation. I do not know this girl and the nature of your relationship with her though so I can't accurately identify which situation it was. & I would argue that the same logic that works for relationships does not apply to matters of life and death. Well you can wallow in self pity, dwell on the past, and be bitter for the rest of your life or you can appreciate the good times you had, learn from the bad ones, and move on. those seem to be your two options. I don't really know what you're looking for here.
im sorry that this has happened to you, its got to be tough to be told that the only thing wrong with you are your parts. im not sure how to advise u to turn ur luck around in terms of dating lesbians.. all i can say is that time really does heal all wounds. and try not to be hateful of lesbians.. however i completely understand that it annoys u at this point. its totally normal to feel anger. maybe u should stay out of the dating scene for sometime. take time to recover properly. take a vacation! join activities, do things for urself that make u feel good. also, change apartments if you havent already. the energy in that place might make you feel worse. if you cant afford to chnage apartments, change the decor or rearrange the furniture. and dont let ur ex visit after you do this. u need a cleansing experience goodluck friend
I can't go on vacation, I'm broke because I spent all my money on an engagement ring! Yes I AM that much of a sucker... Looking at it now, my entire life has been cursed, ever since conception the only thing to move on from here is the same as what Kurt Cobain and Van Gogh did before me. Thank you ladies for showing me kindness before the end.
Okay, I feel bad for you but, get a grip man. Life isn't so bad. girlfriends are not even close to the most important things in life. & if you need money sell the engagement ring.
Sounds like someone is looking for attention. Im sorry, he acts like this very thing hasn't happened to most lesbians. How many of you have been in a relationship and she jumps ship so to speak?
So, being incredibly sexually attractive automatically means someone is a bitch. Obviously there are no hot women out there who actually wish to enter into and stay in a long lasting and fulfilling relationship. Of course every incredibly sexy woman out there has the single forefront desire to tease and manipulate and destroy the hearts of unsuspecting men, even if it means to go to the length of "pretending" to be in love with another woman. And it's all just to fuck with you. News flash, you're not that special. Random women aren't just waiting around out there specifically to fuck with you. Just because you *think* they are doesn't give you the right to condemn them. You see, this is why your girlfriends keep leaving you. You are a womanizing, egocentric ass hole. It's men like you that allow women to see why our fellow women are such the better choice. I'm sorry I can't show you any pity but I just can't show any respect to a man who thinks he can judge a woman's character based on whether or not she is playmate material.
im sorry you got hurt but im just curious. would it be easier on you if she left you for another guy?
She probably knew the entire time and just felt sorry for you, so she decided to stick it out with you instead of feeling guilty about it. You fucking dick. How pathetic is it to take your anger and frustration out on other people, stranger nonetheless. Sad. Ha! You must be bad in bed. You're only looking at it from your point of view. Have some consideration for the shooter. This person could get anywhere from 5 to life. Geez.
how about you stop living your life for girls. go get a life of your own. and that is disgusting how you made 2 lesbians cry in the street just coz you are having a hard time. you have no idea what those ladies have been through. sorry but after you said that i have ZERO sympathy for you. and if your girlfriend said she is a lesbian after one visit to a therapist trust me shes been dealing with this for years. maybe stop being so selfish and see it from her perspective. yeah its wrong she led you on so long, but it happens more then you could believe. she was probably trying to hide her feelings for girls or her family is pressuring her or shes to scared to admit it. it could be any number of issues.
Just do something to get your mind off relationships for a while. Get used to not being in one, then eventually the right person will come to you
