Waiting for a guy to ask you out?

If you know a guy fancies you and is looking at you a lot in a v.unmistakable way do you get frustrated that he doesn't work up the courage to ask you out? How do women think about guys who don't ask them out even though it's obvious he likes them?
Also I'm going to ask a woman out who works at the library. I've been going in there for 3 1/2 years and I know she knows I fancy here. Do you think it's going to make a difference that it took so llong for me to be in the right place, psychologically, to ask her out?

 

I find it very frustrating. I mean she could always ask you, but when you know someone likes you but just doesn't do anything about it - it's soo annoying!

Leaving it a long time isn't good in my experience. Just ask her!

 

If she gets frustrated bc you havent asked her out, then she's probably not worth it. If she likes you, she should have already asked you out by now.

 

If I was interested in a guy and I thought the feeling was mutual, I probably would have gotten closer to him by now, but at the same time it's kind of nice to be around someone that you have an unspoken attraction with and just enjoy each other's energy.

No one here has a CLUE whether she's into you and I don't know why there's so much pessimism in the responses.

Go for it, it could be great.

 

Most men these days won't approach a girl unless he's absolutely sure she wants him to.

It's the 2010s... go ask him out already

 

we don't know each other. She works at the library and we've had a few little chats and said hi when we've passed each other but usually it's akward and I'm silently and akward...I'm akward so I think it might make her reluctant to show too much interst plus she's at work.

 

Yes! :2thumbsup: Unfortunately, most of the time it doesn't seem to work this way though

 

it's because women aren't as nice as they used to be.

 

all women are different for one.

it was always "the man should ask the girl out" so thats probably what she is thinkin. "come on ask me out"

if shes getting frustrated then shes probably thinkin "hes just playing games with me" IDK. go up to her and ask her on a date. then she will show you she likes you

personaly i dont push to ask a guy out. i figure if he really wants me, then he'll come up to me (after i give him a hint)

 

that's lame to play games and hope he asks you out.

to be honest, op, you probably are that "awkward guy" to her.

 

herbal... you are so harsh right now

Some people *like* that awkward guy

 

Don't you worry he might not. Don't you worry you'll spend the rest of your life that he's the one that got away kinda thing?

 

Being female doesn't stop you from having the ability to ask people out, last time I checked. Sitting on your arse waiting for the man to do it even though you know he's shy is pretty absurd.

 

i'm glad someone said this. last night i had two girls approach me, for their friend

"my friend likes you. do you think she is pretty? go talk to her."

i did think she was pretty. i did not go talk to her.

if she was interested, why was i talking to her friends? i'm not too shy, but told them it wasn't as easy as they made it sound - she was sitting in a group of maybe six girls and they wanted me to just walk up. like fuck.

 

I agree 100%. Most of the boyfriends I've had, I have initiated the relationship. My ex-fiance and I were good friends and one day, I just jumped on top of him and started kissing his neck. If more women initiated relationships, I think this world would be a better place

 

You all make it sound like this girl is full of confidence and is just playing with him - knowing he likes her, but too shy to approach her. Maybe she feels exactly the same way.

 

this is true. it's just women have a cliche to hide behind, i guess.

 

i dont think that at all. from my past, the ones who played hard to get, were the ones i wasnt interested in. I use to chase a little but now im tired and want to be chased

i think its just much easier if the guy went up to the girl.

 

or they like to be chased, like most women. in my head if a guy kept staring at me but never came up to talk, id honestly think he was either a creep or an asshole.

 

speak for yourself. this woman thinks it's pathetic.