Who is more accepted? Gay men or women?

Hey everyone!

I have this question: which do you think is more accepted, gay men or women? Or neither? Or both equally?

Personally, all in all, I think gay men are more accepted. There's the whole girls wanting a gay guy to be their fashion counselor (at least, the girls I know are like that) and whatnot.

Explain your reason for what choice you choose

 

I definitely think generally, lesbians are accepted more than gay men. I have seen a few guys saying they hate gay men, but don't mind, or even love, gay women. Ive never heard a woman saying gay men are okay, but they hate lesbians. lol

There does seem to be way more homophobic men than women, and some of these guys are very homophobic about gay men, but don't seem to mind gay women. A woman who is homophobic, is far more likely to condemn all gay people, male and female. So yeah, all things considered, I think in general anyway, gay men have a much harder time in society than gay women.

 

Yeah, its hard to see clearly unless you are actually walking in someone elses shoes.

To me it sounds like a silly question, of course gay girls get it easier, everyone else seems to get angrier at us.

But then again theres the whole sexism thing.


But then again relative to what? As a girl society accepts you more if you're a lesbian than if you are a gal that got knocked up as a teen who then spends the rest of their days on welfare. You have more of a chance developing a career and being somebody, as opposed to the girl that does what everyone tells her and ends up a bored housewife with three kids.


BTW, as for the handbag mafia as I call them, the gals that automatically think you want to spend your days being their accessory, fashion advisor, marriage counsellor - its really annoying. Real life is not like TV and the movies. In real life we'd probably just end up strangling Charlotte, we'd make constant jokes to Carrie about "why the long face?", Miranda wouldnt be able to look us in the eye, and we wouldnt go anywhere near a skankturtle like Sam

 

I can't fathom how anyone could think that gay men are not bigger targets hatred.

 

Where I live, gay men are more easily accepted. Then again, that's a small statement since homosexuality itself is frowned upon greatly (at least by the adults it is). But, it's a church town and that's to be expected.

 

i've given it good thought, and i still think women are, simply because the male image has much more expectations put on it feels like.

but in a few year itll be pretty equally accepted

 

People naturally fear men and men tend to be seen as a sexual threat much more so then women, so I feel it stems from that.

 

Our society loves powerful, strong people so they prefer lesbians over more effeminate gays. Plus let's face it men dictate much of what's acceptable and they have fantasies of lesbians.

 

The bible states a man shall not lay down with a man but does not specify anything about the conduct of woman on woman.

In most countries where it is illegal to be gay it is perfectly legal to be lesbian, because of this retarded bible bullshit.

 

While that is true, there are many christians who also condemn lesbians, and use their religion as the reason for it. Although as you say, lesbians are not specifically mentioned in the bible.

 

Women are far more accepted than gay Men.

 

Historically, lesbian sex hasn't been considered "real" sex. Lesbians aren't thought to be any kind of real threat to hetero society. While that may mean that lesbians aren't treated as harshly as gay men, being thought of as "non-threatening" doesn't equal acceptance.

 

I think that the idea of the lesbian is generally more accepted in society than the idea of a gay man. I believe this is partly as a result of what the above poster said: that lesbian sex isn't "real" sex. There is also the interesting aspect of our society in which open affection between women is much more acceptable than open affection between men. I see straight women hold hands all the time, and even exchange a friendly kiss ever so often. Straight women hug and hold each other when one is upset and sleep together when one spends the night, and just generally show platonic affection for one another in many ways that would get a man's sexuality questioned in a second. I think this is a huge reason why people give far more dirty looks to gay men than to lesbians: lesbian behavior is seen as much more innocent and natural. For example, if one sees two femme lesbians holding hands, most people wouldn't even think they are romantically involved because straight girls hold hands all the time. On the other hand, if two men are holding hands, they would automatically be assumed as gay. Because of the "innocent" behavior that my girlfriend and I displayed in the beginning of our relationship at high school, there were actually many people who thought we were cousins. If you saw a man kiss another man, there are very few instances in which one would assume they are cousins.

There is also another side to the story, though. Butch women don't have it too well in comparison to femmes. I don't really know much about butch adults, but most of the girls I know who lean more towards the masculine side got picked on continuously as they were growing up. Butch girls are the ones who get the dirty names and the weird looks. My girlfriend, who is fairly butch, started getting picked on even before she had any idea that she was a lesbian. I on the other hand, who leans more towards the femme side, have never once been picked on. In middle school, there was a very much of a tom boy who I followed around everywhere and was very close with. She got called all kinds of stuff, all the while that I was right next to her, and not a word of it was ever directed towards me.

 

I feel like gay men have the hardest hill to climb as far as being accepted. I think its because right now, straight men are somewhat, and unfortunately, above women, gay men, and lesbians. These straight guys, who are at the top of the political and professional latter, tend to make the rules and set what's right and what's wrong. And as we all know, straight men love women and it doesn't matter if they're straight or gay. They also are the type of people that don't understand, or don't want to believe, that there are men out there that like other men. I think they have to grow up and accept what is real and that is that there are many different types of people and no one person is the right person. Acceptance for a better life.

RadDiva.

 

Men aren't even near as accepted as woman are, when it comes to this. I know it has been said before, but it's true, it's far more accepted for woman to touch each other than it is for men.
Not to mention the amount of guys that'll drop anything to see two girls making out

 

Thats not even real though, that is almost always about one of those girls trying to get some guy interested....then those same girls later on "Pffft, can you believe how silly they get just over us kissing"

Some party somewhere, two girls make out, a couple drunken frat types stand around "woo hoo" - not about the act itself, just yay, two girls that arent boring prudes


Same kind of thing with this thread, whats said out loud isnt really whats real. With Gay Guys, other guys dont really crap on about it unless its in front of their face. They dont get bitchy or fake nice to your face, claws out behind your back like the girls do. Just cos the girls are a lot more sneakier and quiet about it doesnt actually mean they are more accepting.

In my opinion girls are worse

 

Gay women! - look at heterosexual porn

 

The last two choices are the same choice stated differently.

 

Gay women are in general more accepted by the masses, straight guys find it hot. I have a co-worker that would always say he wanted to get with 2 gay girls at which point I'd reply 'I don't' use to anger him royally, finally he asked me what was wrong, if I was gay or something, my answer, 'Nah man I'm just intelligent, think about it, if the girls are truely gay, you don't have a chance, I like bi girls'

 

Women of course gay men is nasty