I'm having trouble finding meaning to this nightmare/strange dream

Dream #1 of the Night:
I am up in bed reading at around 1:00AM. Suddenly I hear the front door in my house open and slam shut. I am terrified and begin to scan my room for a weapon but I can't find one and settle on using a sharp pencil on my bedside table. I open my bedroom door and see a young boy sitting Indian style in the hallway. I am taken aback and attempt to stab the palm of his hand. This doesn't hurt him. I notice he is fiddling with a pencil himself. I realize that he is glowing slightly blue and I now understand that he is a ghost and become frightened again. I quickly start asking hi)m questions without giving him time to answer until I come to my last question, "are you a good guy or a bad guy?" He looks at me, reluctant to answer. I am uneasy knowing that he looks so reluctant, so I shout to my parents to help me yell and him to get out of the house and never return. I look back and he is gone.
(I woke up after this, I consider this dream a nightmare as I am frightened of ghosts, especially ghosts of children.)

Dream #2 of the Night:
I go to my ex's house, "N," to collect some of my things. I have so many things there that it is taking me a long time to get them all together. Without notice, people start to show up and N whispers to me to hurry up before I embarrass him. People keep showing up and we start to have a party with a lot of smoking. I try to play a game of cards with N and a few others but the game never starts. Later, I go outside and see little boys all around my car. The were out to get me and had placed a bunch of empty juice containers on my car to somehow "get to me." I shoo them away. Even later, the party is over and I am still at N's, kneeling over a dying man. He doesn't want my help so I do the best I can to help anyway and call "Dr. Quantum" to come to the house and tend to the man. When the Dr. shows up and the dying man realizes it is Dr. Quantum, he is suddenly better and stands up. He proceeds to rant to Dr. Quantum about how the doctor owes him money.

 

Hey, learn2see
You can edit your post if you don't want any more people to see your ex's name (not that I know anyone called that).
I think dream#2 seems very similar to a dream you posted the other day, here it is "kids" instead of "white trash" who prevent you from moving forward in life, but they also represent the problems you are facing on a daily basis. You are however more powerful in your reaction than in your earlier dream.
The house (again) has to do with the change in your social life after the breakup, you may feel ignored in social situations (the card game never starts) and even people you genuinely offer the help they need (the dying man) turns you down to be helped by more popular people.
In dream#1 you encounter an animus (a womans male counterpart) but you initiate a conflict rather than embracing him. The sharpened pencil is a symbol of education and knowledge, and this situation could represent a tough choice between talents and desires in an upcoming choice of education/career, you may have some talents for a typical "male" job, but turns it down to "play safe". The pencils are also phallic symbols (so many things are) and your parents represents traditional values you call upon to discourage these deeper talents. If you are religious a stab in the palm may have some significance.
I may need to mention to you that I am in no way a psychologist or a licenced therapist but merely a random dude from the internet, so add a pinch (handful) of salt to this. I can't remember my own dreams even with a journal at my bedside which could explain my obsession with other peoples dreams.

 

Have you tried any techniques to remember? Such as telling yourself over and over that you will remember, going to bed early (without being drunk, or high..and I only say that from experience lol). If you wake up after all that and still don't remember, go back to sleep again for a few hours and when you are less tired but sleeping you will be able to remember your dreams better. There is always Wake Induced Lucid Dreaming too if you can't remember but are interested in lucid dreaming. I love keeping my dream journal!