Staring at someone else while in a relationship

I don't think it's cool that he was sending signals back and forth with this chick but if it ended there, just call him a douche and tell him you don't like that behavior and be done with it.

 

Half the people in this world are made to be attracted to the other half. Procreation

 

Exactly @Mothman, staring at someone for a long ass time does mean you are sending a signal and that you are interested.

So it is kinda wrong if your in a committed relationship.

 

Chemistry can be instant and when you have it with a total stranger its usually strictly sexual...to feed into it while you are committed to someone is wrong on some level even though what transpired was subtle.

 

No. It is only wrong if you act on the attraction. Do you really believe that just because you are in a relationship, you will never ever find someone other then your SO attractive? If you do believe that, there is something wrong in your thinking.

 

To be honest, I would be offended if my partner behaved in that way. It starts with a look, then it goes on and on. You shouldn't behave like you're available if you're not, it's not good for anyone. Poke that prick in the eyes.

So you were just sitting there looking at him, then looking at her, then him, then her, making sure they were still staring with a stopwatch in your hand?

 

im going to be staring at someone in 15-20 minutes and Im in a relationship..

I might do more than staring.. this I know.

 

^Yer lucky, my chick is bleeding like a sacrificial animal and I refuse to touch it or stare at it.

Yeah I get what you all are saying and I'm not suggesting that we stone this guy or that his girl should dump him but I get the feeling the OP was disturbed because she felt the fireworks between these people and it offended her becuase he has a girl and I'm just saying I think she was right to feel like that.

 

Instant chemistry is really exciting and if I'm within the boundaries of what my man is okay with, I will indulge that chemistry in all its glory.

My man reaps all the benefits of the sexual tension that ensues, so really, if I were to shy away from every attraction I felt and try to deny it, we'd miss out on some intense sexual energy.

Basically, if the two of them are open and honest with each other, then there would only be a problem if she's super jealous.

 

I think there are 2 different dynamics going on here. The first being the issue of whether when in a relationship you're just never going to find someone else attractive. I'm sure if you look hard enough you'll find a handful of people who say they love him/her so much that they find no one else attractive, and you can't PROVE them wrong (I don't believe it!), but I believe, as others have said here, that it's inevitable that you're going to at some point see or meet someone else you find attractive. Human nature. Nothing wrong or bad about it. That brings up the second dynamic, and that's how is that attraction handled? I was raised, and STILL believe, that when you're physically together somewhere with your significant other, it's disrespectful for that person to be making goo goo eyes at someone else. To me, it has nothing to do with jealousy. It's a respect thing. I'm open minded and am all about the flirt. Taking a quick peek is not a big deal, but blatant staring is - disrespectful. Now if he were out with the guys; which to me is what happened here except one of "the guys" was really a friend that happens to be a girl, let him stare all he wants. No disrespect as I'm not there. Most men love to stare at pretty women. Harmless flirtation and it's fun, and like Tuesdaystar said, lots of good benefits for ME when he gets home from his evening of desire from afar ;D. If he takes it farther than just flirting, then THAT'S a big problem.

 

Damn if staring at a chick is flirting I need to close my eyes when I work.

 

lol

what do you do?

 

Work in a restaurant.

 

I don't see too much of a problem in glancing at the opposite sex if you are in a relationship provided you:

a) Don't gawk at them excessively, and eye them up and down repeatedly and;
b) Don't do it when you're with your respective other on a date, wherever that might be.

It's common sense to not do it at those times.

 

Perfectly natural is exactly right. If I could get arrested for staring, I'd probably be doing life by now

 

Personally I don't want my woman fucking my brains out cuz some dude made her wet earlier that day. No thanks.

 

i believe, speaking generally, that staring is rude

in this case it seems mutual - but it isn't every time.

you shouldn't mentally undress the pretty girl at the bus stop, it's not always flattering and instead is condescending to that other half of the population

the ones that are treated like a piece of meat.

don't we always say that it is vein to only consider looks? why do uglier people feel as though they have the right to behave this way?

 

in which way?