hard to make this girl orgasm, Help!

So i been seeing this girl for a while now and recently started having sex but the problem is she takes forever to orgasm, she said herself it takes her about 20mins herself and only 1 other guy has made her orgasm, now this sound like a challenge to me, don't get me wrong sh gets me off everytime but i don't think its fair me never doing her. Alot of people will say your shit at it but this isn't true as you can tell from her rection what is good etc. I know every girl is different also.

My question is has anyone every has this problem?

Anyone got any tips on how to make it better for her?

Thanks.

 

Do you know if she is on any type of medication? Some anti depressants known as SSRI uptake inhibitors are known to cause this.

Rolling mobile and dropping bombs.

 

Best option is to ask her what feels goods. Have you tried using your tongue lots of ladies cant come from just intercourse

 

It takes longer the older a woman gets, men also. But, there is only one special location to concentrate on, actually there are two with several subordinate locations but THE one is enough to start.........clitoris.

Find out from her how to maneuver in this area and then just keep it up until she cums. Talk to her while you are doing this. Say sweet things about how you love the way she looks, smell, sounds, moves....etc. Explain to her what you want to do to her and then let her think on it for awhile before you change strategies. Women love to see the reaction in her mans face.

It takes about seven minutes for both men and women to reach orgasm from direct stimulation once relaxed. What you need to do is get her relaxed. Use lubrication also, it does not feel good rubbing raw skin bare.

Men need foreplace also.

 

I have this problem with my girlfriend of 9 months. Nothing i do feels good to her but she said she has orgasmed before with one other boyfriend.

 

its not a problem.
..it doesnt even come close to a problem..
.if you cant spare the twenty minutes lotsa dudes will..
.its how dudes like me get pussy...


.......we have the time and the know how:devil:

 

I can come easily with clitoral stimulation...Intercourse is much harder...

 

Right! 20 min is nothing when you look at her after and see the look of happiness compared to dissipointment of not wanting to take a little time to give her hers

 

one place is enough..

 

I can tell from personal experience that it's hard to orgasm on certain medications. Is she taking any? Maybe she has a really dirty fetish that she doesn't talk about like bondage or something other. Try asking her what she does to make herself cum.

 

good call on the fetish question... i found out my girl :love: likes bondage and the time it takes for her to cum went down a lot when we experimented with it

 

:iagree:

 

try different moves hit from the back the side up side down any thing but make sure she is horny and ready to go before u even start ... kiss her body slowly at first rub your fingers slowly all around her body as u do that play with ears make out with random body parts it all works just try new thing every time until u get some thing to work ... but please make sure u make her fell loved and special the ladies love it when u sweet talk them in the sack ..oh and go slow at first and work your way to going faster hold her body and make love to your girl man it work every time

 

U need to be a man about it I can never get off when a guy is timid about it or just going at it like they are working at something

 

I didn't read your entire post but..it could just be her.

I've been with girls that came on command and ones that had said they never cum with a guy...one was so bad she had to LITERALLY use an industrial back-massager (like a chiropractor would use no you) in order to orgasm..she couldn't even make herself cum any other way.

First thing is...find out if she can make herself cum.

start by having her do whatever she does to herself...and go from there..try to do it yourself..you may have to do that in order to get her off..she just may not be able to cum during penetration.

 

aaaah its so hot when guys do that :tongue:

^ thats good advice

 

I used to take forever... now it only takes a couple minutes of plain old intercourse (and by plain old... I don't mean boring or anything... it's amazing every time). Somehow I don't experience g-spot orgasms from it, but clitoral ones because of the way our bodies move together.

At first the quickest way for my boyfriend to get me off wasn't having sex, but him rubbing his penis on my clit. It was a huge turn on for some reason, and he'd work his way from slow to fast rubbing and it really worked.

 

A good solution I have found is to work these kinds of females with a vibrator either before and/or while you are fucking them or eating them. A vibrator that inserts while you eat them. A vibrator for the clit only if you are in them yourself, fucking away at them. I have made several girls with orgasm issues come in this manner. They were grateful, but wondered how they could bring it up with other/future boufriends that this is what they needed. I left that to them.

 

Stop being selfish, 20 minutes is nothing. I have in the past spent over 2 hours working on a girlfriends orgasm, everyone is different, I have been with women who take forever, and I have been with women who I could give more then 4 orgasms to during just 20 minutes of sex. My ex would not be able to orgasm from anything other then masturbation with help, there simply was no other option for her, and even then it took a good 30-45 minute average.. If you want her to feel good, and if she satisfies you too, then put in the time. Can you honestly say you have something you want to do rather then be naked with your girlfriend watching her orgasm?

 

Too many people giving wrong information, which doesnt work.

I have heard that SSRIs do inhibit orgasm but I dont know if its actually true.

Kissing, cuddling, hugging, intimacy prove you really love her - can you do that ?

Do you really love her or just want to get off?

In her mind shes looking for a guy that is going to hang around, you really have to show your caring, and considerate, I guess there must be a lot of reasons in a womens mind that turn her on.

I dont think women like to be treated like shit, everybody likes to be treated kindly and with respect, unless of course they are screwed up.