My husband and I have been married for 10+ years and we have a great sex life, always have. Prior to marrying him, I had a 3 year relationship with a guy in college. We had anal quite regularly. I really enjoy it and think it has it's place. I was always face down, and rubbing my clit and always had orgasms. I don't carry a tape measure, but he was what I would consider very average size, my husband is much larger and more importantly much thicker. My husband and I tried anal several times when first married, but really painful! I could never take him for more than a minute or so. So it just kind of stopped and went away. He gives me amazing oral and takes care of me there every time we have sex, lately (past 3 months) he has been in my ass a lot during oral, and I'm loving it. Started with fingering the outside, then moved in, 1 finger, then 2. Reading this forum as a guest has been helpful, we have started using real lube, not just my natural, and have added a glass dildo. I.E., I think we are working up to it nicely. Just want to know if any ladies that have had thicker cocks have any further suggestions. I'm anxious, but nervous, he is still a bit thicker than the dildo we've been using....Thanks.
My reply may be the same as what you've already read, but here it is: Do anything beforehad that you need to, like using the bathroom, etc. so you're not worried about it later on. Then relax and work up to it slowly (in both the long run and during the particular experience). It may take some time to stretch and accomodate your husband's girth/length, so dont rush and dont be disappointed if it doesnt work out exactly as your pictured it. I usually smoke a bit of pot before bed with my bf...a nighttime ritual kinda thing, and personally I find that it helps me relax and loosen my muscles so its easier for him to enter me when we do anal. Im not saying you should or shouldnt smoke, but find whatever makes you relax most...even popping an aspirin may work (although Im not sure about that). You could also try different positions that allow for easier penetration or not so much penetration if trying to take all of him inside you is too much. Ive found that lying on my back with my knees raised up actually works better for me, and I can still play with my clit. Other than that, just enjoy yourself - sex should be fun and pleasureable no matter what kind!
Never been a pot smoker, but red wine or Scotch have the same effect, certainly useful for relaxation. In all the times I did anal with previous guy, I'm pretty sure I was never facing him. Could be great in modified missionary, with legs up, as long as I can slide a finger in to work myself a bit!
My and my girl have anal about twice a week. I'm around 1 1/2inch girth and doggy style is her favorite position as well but only when shes REALLY relaxed. We find that when shes tighter and not so relaxed going into the fetal position and have your man behind you. You can raise a leg in the air to help if you need to. She finds that position is easiest as your not putting any pressure on your hips and it allows me to slide in easier! Also he would be right by your ear, as you know with anal communication is IMPORTANT! Plus you can still play away in this position. Hopefully the mans position may shed some light on things! Good luck and enjoy
