Okay. I tried posting before but I will try one more time. I have been in a relationship for 2.5 years with the same person and I love them very much. Recently I have found myself somewhat distracted. I can even say I'm not really attracted to this new person or would I describe how I feel about them as a crush. However, somehow for whatever reason I really want to talk to her. I have spoken words to this person but try to be careful. I have cheated and been cheated on and both suck. I don't want to jepordize my relationship and I know that in no way SHOULD my girlfriend allow me to persue this friendship as it can't really go anywhere good. Its unfair to my girlfriend for me to talk to this girl I believe Also it is unfair to the girl if I lead her on and give her my number, since I'm not actually avalable to her. Still I feel like I should talk to her but I won't mess up my relationship.
Imo nothing. If I knew hands down that it wasn't setting myself up for failure, I could argue that I'm allowed to have friends. She Does allow me to have friends, usually we have common interests though.
I don't think you're being honest. You contradict yourself. You say you're not really attracted, but you also say a friendship "can't lead to anything good". It seems apparent you have the hots for this new girl and you're justifiably concerned about hurting your current relationship. Ultimately, you have to decide what's more important to you, pursuing this girl or continuing your relationship. I'm glad you know that cheating isn't the way to go.
Totally agree. Personally, I think it is very easy to emotionally cheat in today's society. When you are repeatedly going to another person, to find solace or vent to about your s.o. or if that person is coming to you, I think it is dangerous territory. Also, be wary that perception in a s.o.'s eyes may be their reality. In other words, be cautious of what could be perceived and ask yourself, would you want your s.o. to be doing what you are doing.
