23 year old virgin... help!

sounds like you have social anxiety.
in all seriousness not being funny, meds work amazing for that. won't have those brain issues anymore

 

there is no such thing as "normal"

it's a trick

 

I don't think dating sites are a good idea. It puts you in an unnatural situation. In your case it would be better to meet a girl in the most relaxed situation possible. If you're afraid to even make eye contact with girls it sounds like you're putting them on too much of a pedestal. Try getting to know a girl as a friend first without even thinking about pursuing her as something more...this will take the pressure off until you know her well enough to get past the shyness.

this is true.

 

They aren't different at all. Other than that being a virgin if you're a girl is seen as a positive thing, in the eyes of guys particularly. Whereas guys are made to feel like there's something wrong with them if they're still virgins after a certain point, and it's seen as something to be amused at. In saying that though, a guy being a virgin is seen as an attractive quality in some women, if not to the same extent that men find virgin women attractive, even if it's usually for a totally different reason.

 

I thought virginity as being a quality that people pay attention to was a moral prejudice of the past. Apparently I was mistaken.

 

Dude - relax, masturbate to stay in tune with your body and the right lady will come along - just don't be afraid of things, anything - the worse that can happen is for one to say No and if so that's her misfortune not yours.

 

well yeah, that's basically what i was saying. i don't think that the definition of a virgin is different for each gender or something.

 

It will happen when its meant to....in the meantime , just have lots of fun playing

 

Sex can wait, masturbate. YAY!

 

the idea that a virgin is useless is a stupid prejudice. If you are able to love, then you are useful.

 

of course virgins aren't useless. who else would you sacrifice to the volcano?

 

:smilielol5:

 

I do feel useless though. I am able to love, but will never recieve it back. So I'm just left feeling very hollow about being able to love. That's not to say I believe all virgins are useless, just in my case I do feel useless.