Lesbians who have never been with men....

Is it common to meet Lesbians that have never slept with a man and never would?

 

I never have, though I can't say that I've been with more than two women...I've often been interested in kissing a man, just so I could say that I did...But I figure that's about as bad as straight girls making out with other girls just to say that they did...I figure, I'll fall in love with whomever I connect with on a deeper level -- sex organs shouldn't define a person, you know?

 

Well I am not a lesbian, nor a women... But as a bi male, I would say that you can only SAY what you prefer, and not actually KNOW it until you try both, I mean, that's how most of my gay friends came out, had sex with a women and realized a little something from the experience. If you are a lesbian who has never had sex with a man, how can you possibly ever say that you don't like it? Even if they gross you out. I hate the look and smell of many food, but love the taste.

 

I've been with 3 guys and only my girlfriend. I thought I was straight till I hooked up with her lol

 

I knew before I ever slept with anyone that I was a lesbian. I have slept with one man and one woman. The man was the first one and I knew beforehand that it wasn't right for me.

But anyways, back to the question: I have yet to meet a woman that has only slept with other women. So I'm not sure how common it is.

 

I definitely do not agree with this. I think it is perfectly possible to know your sexuality without having had sex with both genders. I've never been so much as kissed by either gender, but I'm still very sure of my sexual orientation. Sexual and emotional attraction both occur without the need for the act of sex itself, and it's these things rather than actually having sex that defines your sexuality.

Most gay men have been with women before they came out, but that's only because they felt they had no choice but to do that, and knew before going into it, that it was something that wasn't right for them. One of my friends is gay, and he had a girlfriend, but he said he knew even before he got with her that it wasn't right for him, and that he wasn't attracted to girls. He only went out with a girl because of wanting to please his family, and trying to fit in with the societal norm. He knew though that he wasn't attracted to girls, and that deep down, what he was doing was a mistake. Most gay men who started out being with women would never have done so had they not felt immense pressure to do so. And Ive certainly heard a few gay men who started off by going out with women, saying they knew before they went with a woman that they were gay and attracted to men only. They didnt have to have sex with a woman to know that.

I'm not saying that for some people who are confused about their sexuality that sex with both sexes wouldn't help in clarifying their preference. Because Im sure it would. But a lot of people are not confused about their sexuality, and do not need to have sex with both genders in order to realise this. Its all about who you find yourself attracted to, and that has absolutely nothing to do with the act of sex itself.

 

I agree with invisible soul that sex isn't the defining factor for a lot of gay people and that some people know before they have ever had sex.

 

I think by your late teens, most people know their own sexuality. Even if in the case of some gay people, this is something that they choose to keep hidden at the time. Just because a lot of gay people do not disclose their true sexuality until much later on in their life, doesn't mean they weren't aware of the fact that they were gay during their adolescence.

I'm still a virgin, but I've been 100% sure of my sexuality since my late teens. I don't need to have sex to know who I'm attracted to.

 

I think that it is really great that you knew and didn't have to experiment to make sure. But I agree with one of your previous statements that some people who are "confused" can clarify some things by experimenting.

 

For me, doing anything intimate or sexual was never really an option. And luckily, I was never in a situation where anything like that could have taken place. But although Ive never had sex, I have developed strong emotional feelings for people before. This coupled with what Im physically attracted to, left no doubt in my mind as to what my sexual orientation was. But I would say I came to that realisation later than most people, due to for a long time never being in situations where I could develop strong feelings for anyone. I knew what I was physically attracted to, but it wasn't until I started developing strong emotional feelings for someone that I knew for sure my orientation.

I do think for people who feel confused about their sexuality, it can help. Because many bisexual people actually have a preference for one gender over the other. They may be able to feel attracted to both genders, but some bi people lean more towards the straight or gay end of the spectrum than the other. Rather than being right in the middle.

 

I had a bf in the past but I never slept with him and never wanted to!

 

I kissed a boy once when I was 11...

 

Iwoulda been more than happy to skip the whole guy thing , but I wanted kids....and hadnt heard of the turkey baster trick....DAMN

 

I've never had sex with a guy and neither has my girlfriend, but then, we're both only 18. However, neither myself nor my girlfriend presently have any intentions of having sex with a man at any time in the future.

 

I've kissed plenty of boys but never had a boyfriend, never had sex with a guy, and don't plan on it. I think men are beautiful and have many appealing qualities but I'm just uninterested in having sex with them. Sexually, they just do nothing for me. When I am kissing a guy I find myself thinking about other things and wondering when I can leave. Once, when I was kissing this guy he stopped and said, "what are you thinking about?" and I responded, "food." He got pretty mad at me lol but I was actually really hungry. I would never say that to a girl no matter how hungry I was hahaha.

I like to look at them but I don't want the real thing.

 

I have to disagree that the only way you can know what you prefer or want is to be with a man and a woman. I have always known that I was a lesbian, and I have never had sex with a man. Men don't make me disgusted, I just happen to be attracted to women and not men. I was never confused about what I wanted, I did pretend to be attracted to men during jr. high and high school but that was because I was afraid to come out. I think that for some people, they know what they want and others find out by being with a man and a women.

 

I agree with invisible soul and blankenship24 I too pretended to like boys in order to remain in stealth mode. Girls were always wanting to beat me up for being friends with their boyfriends. I always knew I was attracted to girls they made my stomach do flips or gave me butterflies I just didn't quite understand it completely until I was older.

 

proud gold star lesbian here!

 

can't say if it's common or not...but I have never slept with one, and never will. :daisy:

 

It's definitely common. Those are just the lesbians that knew exactly who they were early on.