I have a question. I am female in my early thirties and my mentor who was my female teacher in her mid 50's(college). When I was her student she invited me to her house to help me study. I thought it was kinda odd and crossing boundaries as student/teacher. But I needed help in the class so I went. The way she had looked at me deeply in the eyes and then asked me if I wanted to come over to her house for help gave me some sort of "vibe". She is married and so am I. Both of us with kids, her's being older and in college and mine are toddlers. She always would compliment me on my looks. We had to text message eachother a couple of times related to school (all the students have her number-not just me) but it seemed as though we got sort of close. She invited me to her house again to study but that time I said I thought I would be fine with the class. One day when the semester was almost over she said if I ever needed anything at all to call her and even if it was late at night. SO..unexpectidly I had to do that one night and sent her a message at midnight. The next day she sent a message back saying that it was too late and I woke her up. I felt hurt because of her previous statement...so I told her I would never talk to her again because I felt like a burden. Well, then a few weeks passed and school was over. I felt bad for telling her I didnt want to talk to her again(even though I was hurt because she totally contradicted herself) and I emailed her and apologized. She wont except my calls either. So now I am obviously done with the "friendship" but I am hurt because of my apology that was never accepted...how can someone just cut someone off like that? She was the one who "initiated" all of the invites to her house, help, etc. and then shut me down. What the heck happened?? So bad that she would NEVER even reply to my apology...what will happen in the future? I will never get to talk to a person I really looked up to again and I am sad.
If she doesn't want to talk to you, then that's all there is to it- you've got to wait for her to come around. People can't be changed by others, only by themselves. Swallow your sadness, it's the only thing you can do besides wait for her to contact you back.
If she was willing to cut you off over one message, she's probably too bitchy too deal with anyway. You're better off finding out how petty and vindictive she is now, rather than later.
Great advice, you both are right...better to find out now than later. It sucks how crude people can be, I just wouldnt be able to live with myself treating someone like that. I just would feel too guilty I mean. I would at least have to send an email back saying that I appreciate the apology but I think its best we go our seperate ways and I would have to at least respond with something. It is just so weird how close she got to me so quickly and how quick she was to write me off, I just am confused about her motive....at first I thought she had a crush on me the way she had invited me over all of the time...and the vibe she would give me ...but who knows..anyone???
Sounds more like she thought you had a crush on her. She's the one that cut you off after you went schizo she didnt immediately respond to a midnight text
