A few years ago my girlfriend and I moved in to a two bedroom apartment with a friend of ours from college. After a while my girlfriend and I wanted to try a threesome and we offered our roommate the option to join us in sex. That was about a year and a half ago, but now we have progressed to having sex as a threesome often. As of a few months ago my girlfriend began having sex privately with our roommate and a few weeks ago I had a male to male sexual encounter with him. This has extended to non-sexual situations too. My girlfriend admitted that she considers both of us to be her partners and I have begun to feel a level of intimacy with him which is more than just friendship. We had a discussion about what's going on and we agreed that we'd like to try to come to a balanced three-way relationship. Does anyone have any experience with this? Does this seem like a bad idea? I figure that the most dangerous situation would be two people getting strongly attached thus excluding someone. We're not going to have any joint property just in case.
I don't have experience with such things, but the way I see it is that it could end with heartbreak; but so can a normal relationship. Three is a rather awkward number and generally in similar arrangements there is a primary relationship. But if you are all willing to try it and having a good time, then I don't see any reason not to go ahead with it.
It seems like you've had time to think it out and whatnot. I say you only live once so why not give it a try! But be careful with feelings because like you said, it is possible for two of the people to become closer and more attached
I was initially having some concerns that my roommate was taking over the relationship between my girlfriend and I, but as of recently, I have had some sexual encounters with him directly and this has really smoothed out those feelings. We don't do anything too intense (I'm not really at that comfort level yet) but we've done frot a couple times and it's a nice reminder that we're both equally part of this. Duck, I totally agree with you. Normal relationships end in heartbreak and I honestly can't see this being much different. You're so right.
right onn lol. This was kinda something i fantasized about for awhile in my teen years, idk something like th could be possible but then mabey not as much love/energy would go into a 1 on 1 relation, so theres a sacrifice for that. It would be nice to have 2 lesbo wives tho not gonna lie This kinda thing always reminds me of jom lahey a randy and barbs 3 way relation bahahaha.
Sounds wonderful! Go for it, you never know, it might end up being a lifetime relationship. I hope you will keep us posted.
I have experience with alternative relationships. They can work, but everyone involved must be on the same page and communicate a whole lot! Radical honesty, frequent communication, and ample forgiveness for mistakes is key. I'm dating a wonderful woman that is married to another man. Her and I have been in a loving relationship for a little less than 2 years. Alternative relationships can work, but everyone involved needs to have similar desires and hopes for the relationship. Yes, there is a chance that a heartbreak will occur, but that chance also exists in monogamous relationships also. So, don't let fear hold you back. It sounds like you and your girlfriend have slowly built a relationship with your roommate. That is super hot, but also I believe that the arrangement is more stable and has more substance than if a couple were to seek out and find a person to move in and fill a fantasy. In my opinion, your triad has above average stability and a strong foundation. Keep communicating. Encourage both of them to communicate their feelings. Also, it would be good for the three of you to discuss "boundaries and expectations". Now, this sounds a bit daunting, but it is better to talk about what would be "too much" for you rather than find out afterward. A male/fem couple that I'm very close to have had two different women move into their home at different times. The women ended up moving on, but it was still worth it to them. They all enjoyed doing nonsexual things together just as much as sexual. I recommend reading The Ethical Slut.
