I make my Parents looking like White Trash

I smoke cigarettes. I personally don't see anything wrong with it. i don't need to hear about the cancer/other stuff.

when i first started smoking, i had to hide it from my parents. i wouldn't smoke within an hour of going home, load up on gum, AXE body spray, and hand sanitizer

then after catching me a few times, the started to let me smoke, just where they cant see. so i started smoking out of my window, where i can climb out onto my roof. i even went as far as making my own ash tray out of a water bottle that was glued to a slanted piece of wood so it wouldn't slide off the roof. after a month or two of doing that i come home to find the ash tray gone. i asked my parents what happened to it.

they took it away because if my neighbors were in their backyards, they would get the impression that my family and i are "white trash" LOL?!?!??!

so then i started smoking in the front of the house.

just today, i got out of the shower and went out for a smoke.i had nothing on but some basketball shorts. my mom comes running out of the house screaming at me to get in the backyard....once again because she doesn't want to be "white trash"

i dont get it, shes always trying to get me to cut my hair, her car has to be washed everyday, and rarely does she ever buy "store made" products, (not brand name)

me trying to be myself is like an insult to her. sorry for my rants but given what i have gone thru in the past 9 months, i need someone to talk to. so thanks for reading

peace
TO

i know i didn't type the neatest, but i think its still readable

 

you're 19. stop being a loser and get the fuck out of your parent's house.

 

I didn´t know cigs were so white trash.

 

thanks vigilant. very helpful. ive actually been out of my parents house for the past year, but i have to stay away from drugs thanks to probation . so if there is nothing to say that will forward this thread. plz dont post anything at all

 

wait.. then why is this even an issue?

 

because i had to move home to distance myself from the drugs. and i cant even smoke infront of my house, where i find it most peaceful.

 

so, you do live at your parent's house then. so, like i said get the hell out or do what they say. you're lucky they let you stay there.

 

would she be so freaked out if you smoked fully clothed?

If not, just tie her up in the basment whenever you smoke.

 

I don't blame your parents entirely for their own discomfort, they should have fixed this problem the first time they caught you, not allow you to continue out of sight. They created this problem, but as an adult, you should do what ever you can to lessen your burden on them while you are a guest in their home.

 

Your mom sounds like a lady I'd have a hard time enjoying.

 

I would in my opinion respect my parents wishes, you had to move back home to deal with personal issues, but it is still their home with their rules.
I have met many people who were not as fortunate enough to have parents that have welcomed them back into their lives.
Be proud you have a family that cares enough to help you.

If cigarette smoking and your attire make your family uncomfortable and feel they are looked down upon by nosy neighbors, change it, at least for the comfort and acceptance from their neighbors.

 

Techno Overlord:

So you feel annoyed with your parents because you are used to living your own life in a certain way and now that you are back home they are imposing their way of living on you, and you want to still be your own person? Am I understanding you correctly? Please let me know if I'm wrong...

Assuming I am right, what do you think you should do in this situation? Have you thought about possibilities/solutions that you could do? If so, what have you already thought of?

How would you feel about abiding by your parents rules while you are still living with them (no being shirtless outside, no smoking on rooftop using bottles as ashtray) and then moving out (once you can) and going back to living on your own terms? How would you feel about going over to a friend's house where you can do all that? Would it be possible to have a talk with your parents? If so, what would you be able to say to them?

Just for the record, I don't see anything wrong with what you have done... you aren't the problem here; I do believe that your parents are very insecure people (the brand name only, car wash everyday, no shirtless guys, etc) who try to keep up a perfect image in order to make themselves feel better... but then again, it doesn't really matter what I think... it's what you and your parents think!

 

Haha damn dude, see if you can help her calm down. Reassure her on something