first anal question from girl?

Ive never had anal sex and most circumstances I never wanted to.
My current bf in the heat of the moment rubs my butt and tries to fingered me there. Until lately I was never into it and it was taboo, but its been turning me on more and more. The last few times we had sex and I let him there with his finger and even oral. Its just the heat of the moment when he asks me if I want it in the ass I say no.
I feel saying yes or asking him to go inside my ass is dirty and I sound like a whore but now I want to try it. I dont want to sound dirty or like a whore, how do you try this? Why wont he just do it like everything else?

 

Baby, if you are genuinely interested in it, the moment will come naturally to you. Forget your apprehensions of being called an anal whore, because in my world, anal whores are far more desirable than girls who won't do take it in the ass. Since it is your first time, I can only suggest proceeding slowly and use lots of lube. When you get more experienced, you will want to use enemas so you can do ass-to-mouth with your boyfriend. Forget all your preconceived notions of anal sex and re-program your brain to associate anal sex with extreme pleasure and something very positive instead of negative. Once you do it and get comfortable being an anal whore, drop me a private message so I can fly over and get into your ass!

 

Did you ask the first time your put it there or just did it?
I get wet enough I dont think I need any lube, at least at first.
In the past I wasn't into it and yelled "watch where your putting it" many times
I just don't know how to change 360 degrees from that and say yes put it in there.

 

If you're really interested in trying anal, do it on yourself cus then you can go at your own pace and how much you want in. Your asshole has the 2nd most nerve endings in the body and when you combine an orgasm from clit stimulation or however you do it vaginally; combine it with something in your ass and it makes the orgasm WAY more intense. If you got any toys try them on yourself before you let the real thing in there

 

If I were you, I would ask him to put it in there...just ask him, I am sure he will want to do it. Tell him you have been thinking about it and you would like to try. I would not have thought any guys would turn that opportunity down.

 

That's what I used to think op! Trust me tho, the orgasm is the most intense pleasure I've ever felt. A suggestion if I may--(aside from taking it slow and working up to it) rub your clit or use a dildo while he's playing back there. If there is any discomfort, the simultaneous stimulation of the clit or vag will avert your attention there instead of feeling awkward about him playing in your ass. Best of luck! It's definitely worth it if you can get over the preconceived notions.

 

Every First Experience is New in Ours Life . Not Fear If You want anal sex It Will be enjoyable for You

 

If you really want to try it, I guarantee you as a guy, the fact that you previously said no will only turn him on more! Make sure he uses lots of lube, and starts with a finger in your ass, then two. If that's not too uncomfortable, you're ready for anal. My gf loves it for the naughtiness, and I suspect that's what turns you on about it too. Good luck x

 

no, i'm pretty sure girls have asked anal sex questions before.

 

nothing, and I mean nothing, turns on a guy more than to have his woman ask to be fucked in the ass.

"asking him to go inside my ass is dirty and I sound like a whore" - isn't that a good thing? Be naughty, guys love that.

 

I concur, they love it! :sunny:

 

maybe one specific guy, yeah.

 

I've never had a guy who doesn't enjoy anal sex. But not that many know how to initiate a girl's ass the right way. There're no fixed rules but a lot of patience, lube and loving are the key ingredients. I have been having it since 17 and could never forget those strings of explosive orgasms I had when I had my first anal fuck.

 

I enjoy Anal Sex - and being Bi, that can be either with Men or Women, but, given the option, I still prefer plain straightforward Vaginal Sex.

 

Amy, I recommend you get Silicone Lube, like ID Millennium. Remember too much lube is almost enough. Go Slow Slow Slow.

I would encourage you to let him finger you a few times, with lube. See if you really like it.

If you want to just go for it, I would seriously recommend trying it alone by yourself with a toy. In hindsight i wished i had. It helps you learn how your body will react to it. You can learn how to control your breathing and relax. Its like your butt hole has a mind of its own. it needs to decide on taking him in at its own pace.

It can be really enjoyable when done right. Since many girls wont do it, he will really appreciate it. Because we tend to be tight down there, some guys will cum really fast. Its cool, they get better.

Dont let him go in your vagina after he is inside your anus. You can get infections. I cant say I have always followed the rule. I haven't had an infection from doing it. But everyone's different. The smart people would say putting intestinal bacteria in the vagina is dumb.

Some girls do enemas before hand. Most guys don't care. I do because I'm a neat freak and I just dont want to see or smell poo during sex. It can happen anyway. An enema can get you in the mood, or at least mentally prepared a bit. Its not necessarily a solo thing, some guys think its really sexy to fill you up.

No matter what, use lots and lots of lube. Go slow slow slow. If you are both patient and he can wait until your body has fully accepted him before he starts pumping, it can be a really fun thing to do.

While it dismissed the disease issue, I used to let guys bareback me anally before i was on birth control. It was a way I could receive their cum without freaking out about pregnancy. It doesn't address the disease concern, but it sure beats teenage pregnancy.

 

You WILL need lube, and lots of it. Doesn't matter how wet your vagina gets - your ass doesn't. And don't sweat the 180 so much (a 360 would have you back to saying "NO!", after all). My wife was adamantly against anal sex for years. Then one day she said she wanted to try it. Truthfully, it freaked me out a bit. Not because I didn't want to, but because I'd never done it before and was afraid to cause pain.

We researched anal sex and ways to prepare. After having some difficulty inserting butt plugs into her, I decided I'd try inserting one into me first to understand what was going on. I had never done this, either, and it was NOT comfortable at first. I had never inserted anything into my ass, and wasn't really keen on it. My muscles clamped up and it hurt - just as all the things you read in other posts. I purchased one of those "magic bullets" that vibrates. There's usually a hole at the end of a butt plug to insert one. The vibration helped me relax my muscles, and it slipped in fairly quickly. That was when I found out why some men like to use those things. My cock was rock-hard almost instantly from the internal vibrations, and after masturbating I came so hard I nearly fell over.

So! If you really want to try anal out and don't want to cause your boyfriend emotional scarring and yourself a serious pain in your ass, I'd strongly suggest a trip to your local adult shop and pick up a silicone butt plug (fairly small), some anal lube, and a magic bullet. Spend time alone getting comfortable with inserting and moving the butt plug around a bit before you try anything with your boyfriend. Then, when you've done this for a week or two, ask him over and show him how to insert it into you. This will help him understand how to insert his cock when it's time. When you think you're ready, employ lots of lube. Lube up your anus as well as his cock, and have him go slowly. You probably won't have as easy a time with him as with your toy, because he'll probably be bigger, and your control is lessened. Take it slowly and you'll probably love it.

 

Have you ever done anal masterbation? Try it. See if you like it. Learn that it is not taboo or dirty or wrong. Sex with someone who is patient is great. Then you won't feel "bad" about wanting anal sex. it sounds like your body is wanting it, you just have not committed to it emotionally yet.

 

Kin reminded me...to put yourself in control, do it doggie and instead of having him enter you, slowly slide back on his cock. Not only will it turn him on to see you wanting him, but it will put you in control of how fast he enters and how hard/deep he goes.

 

We did it the other night and it was wierd for a minute but got hot quick. It made our sex life so much better with more options and last longer. He can go down on me, then go down somewhere else, finger me, then somewhere else, have sex, then somewhere else. Amazing! Thank you everyone!

 

When you break up with your boyfriend, send me a message and we can hook up for even more wild anal experimentation!