I cheat on my girlfriend Am I a bad person?

At 21 and 27, she is quite a naive lady whereas I commited certain activities for sums of money, She has made me promise to quit crime for her and I have. We both want to get married, I want kids, she doesnt, I want sex she doesnt (When I'm with her the no sex thing doesnt bother me, I'm quite satisfied just feeling her up and eating her face), we both enjoy the same kind of hobbies and both love to act like children. We both like me kissing her in public (she likes the fact that I want the whole world to know that I love her), I would die for her and she would probably do the same, our parents both think we are well matched. I would anything for her and as A result I have decided to stop cheating on her, but I dont know what the fuck to do now, I'm not going to take her to a therapist shes not a nutcase she just doesnt enjoy sex physically (mentally I'm not sure, but I think she kinda sees it as dirty)
Neither of us would want an open relationship The thought of it would probably make her cry, I would just hate the jealousy of other guys and the fact that I don't want her to feel like I need more than her to make me happy. This is a confusing situation.

 

it really isn't. she doesn't like it. either accept this, or leave her. since you don't want to leave her

you must accept it.

 

Thats exactly what I'm going to do, Ima stop cheating and become celebate for her, tis worth it in the end.

 

awww

 

Why you would adhere to a person's attitude that thinks sex is dirty is beyond me. She has a mental condition that may respond to some kind of counciling. She needs a shrink/psychologist and now I think you may also. Oh well------it's your life. If you and she want to deny one of lifes natural ocurrances/pleasures because of some mental issues---carry on.

 

She's lying, she loves sex and she's cheating on you, no 27 year old lives without sex having already done it, it's impossible "she says she doesn't like sex" bullshit. Dump her, you say now that you want to be celibate for her, I wanna see you reply to this after 8 months of celibacy... It's madning, and it just doesn't work. All the love you feel for her now will be replaced with old fashioned frustration and resentment.
Btw, no person TRULY in love with someone doesn't want to have sex with them, it's contradictory (except mormons lol), SPECIALLY if she already had sex before, doesn't make any sense.
I give this relationship 1 year TOPS. Good luck.

 

dont lie we all know u wont. just end it cause even if you do stop cheating and she finds out u cheated in the past it will kill her.

 

Well yeah...if you actually love your girlfriend, and were happy in your relationship, you wouldn't have any reason to cheat.

 

i'm 27, i have had sex, and i don't have sex. it's actually a hell of a lot easier than spending 40 hours a week going out and pretending to be some douche just so i might be able to stick my dick in someone.

 

Nah, you're not a bad person. You're something I cannot name right now or I'd get banned.

 

Quite frankly most know the ground rules before going into a relationship, that's the beauty of getting to know someone [Chance to know what they like/want and don't like/want out of a relationship/life in general]. Means you have some form of understanding what to expect from each other so you don't come into these problems at a later date.

I am not here to male bash as there is a lot of men as posted previously are annoyed at this because it does give anyone male or female a bad reputation, I loathe the whole "It's like all men or it's like all women" statements. Not all men or women are like this, especially not the ones with some self-respect for themselves and others.

Yes, I see where you are coming from, but if she had told you I quote "She never will have sex with me" shouldn't that have been the first red light to go off that you both want different things? If you do "Love" her which I expect you do, at least be honest with her.

 

Maybe shes cheating on me, but I doubt it, she has very little opportunity too and I know almost every happening in her life. I want to tell her what I have done, But the fear of her dumping me is too much, I don't mind if she does sleep with someone else to get back at me if we still have a relationship afterwards.

 

i think you get off on cheating on her

 

No I feel guilty during and after cheating on her, I don't get any sort of 'bad guy rush' from cheating on her, its just how I got my sexual release.

 

Having been cheated on... yep I think you're awful.

 

Don't buy into that "good person" or "bad person" label. If you love her, cheating shouldn't be on the table. That's your choice. It sounds like she's had some bad sex or possibly abused, brainwashed by caregivers or religion, or she's got abandonment issues.....take your pick. Her telling you she's never going to have sex with you is, I think, her testing your commitment to her - i.e., "what's one of the worst possible things I can think of to do to him, and if I do it, will he stay with me?" And if you don't stay, she can say to herself, "see, I knew he would abandon me", and if you do stay, my guess is that she'll continue to come up with different tests for you (she may be doing this and be completely unaware of it - subconsciously). If she's otherwise emotionally healthy (at least in your opinion), she's GOT TO know that never having sex with the love of her life is completely unrealistic and going to drive you away. I would bet just about anything that her girlfriends are telling her the same thing. Sex is a natural and healthy expression of a couple's love and is instinctual. I'm with all the rest that say if you really love her and want to be with her, sit down and talk with her honestly about how you're feeling (do NOT tell her about the hookers, IMO). It sounds like you 2 are head over heals in love. Maybe she would LIKE sex with you, and maybe you could ask her to try it with YOU before she has sworn it off for good. If she loves you as much as she says she does, she should be willing to take your needs into consideration as much as her own. And like others have said, it sounds like it would be a great idea for you to gently nudge her towards a counselor of some sort. Not because she's crazy - most people that see counselors just need some, well, COUNSELING, for problems that they just don't have enough knowledge or tools to handle themselves. Stay strong dude, tough situation.

 

Break up. get a new GF. Stop cheating.