I cheat on my girlfriend Am I a bad person?

She lives away from you, and tells you NEGATIVE for any form of physical sex. You're a 21 year old dude, of course you're going to get antsy. Honestly, if you really loved her you wouldn't cheat on her. You wouldn't think of anyone else.

I suggest breaking up with her and finding someone else who can keep you satisfied. And if you really do love her, you'll let her find someone who shares the same values and ultimately feels the same way about her.

 

and you wonder why she don't wanna sleep with you?

 

Now taking bets that the GF is underage.

 

She has had sex before she just says she doesn't like it, but she does get turned on by me, (I don't get the difference). I sleep with hookers because its easier to get with them without her finding out as the people who aren't hookers will ask for fb and facebook details and then inform her of my actions. I might just tell her straight, but I imagine she will cry (she says she hates sex with a passion and just does it to keep with her man, but I didn't want to make her do it because she would get upset) she is 27 btw. She is the 3rd girl I have dated that I care about and like the 12th girl I have dated. Is she just using me because I make her feel safe and beautiful and thinks I won't ever want sex? This is all confusing, I'm not trolling anyhow.

 

I feel that If I broke up with her she would be devastated for a long time, she said nobody else ever made her feel as happy as me and she cried the first few times she said it to me, If I where to say goodbye to her now I think she might never trust again and she would see her life as pointless. I am not explaining this well am I?

 

You are. I gets it.

Unfortunately, this is her problem, effecting you. There's not much you can do about it than encouraging her to see a therapist. Being 27 and with that kind of a reaction to sex, she's got some serious issues that you just can't help her with. No matter much the urge to 'fix it' or how well intentioned you may be, fixing this kind of stuff without professional help can very likely make things worse.

It may upset her to tell her to seek therapy but unless she happens to fall for a unich, she is always going to have problems maintaining a celibate relationship.

 

You aren't doing her any favors cheating on her. Yeah she will be upset if u brake up but what if u don't and ur together for like over a year and she discovers the whores how crushed will she be then?

 

No, just a bad boyfriend.

 

Huge red flag!

Forget about whether you are "good" or "bad" or whether she is "good" or "bad". Is she the kind of girlfriend you want? Do you want a girlfriend or a fix-it project?

 

I smell a lesbian

 

old spice?

 

Naw b fish and home construction

 

hah, nice.

he ain't getting no sex... may as well ask her to build him an extension, at least.

 

Ahahahaha

 

Fuck it then, when I next see her I'm gonna talk about this, and If I don't get any within like 2-3 months I will have to swallow my fears and dump her. I just fear that dumping her might kill her emotionally, and that I may end up crying my eyes out for a few days, I can imagine me getting like 4 months of calls of her just talking to me and crying. But what can I do? no man wants to be celibate for life and she won't find one who is willing to do that. My problem sounds rediculous and I should man the fuck up.

 

Don't giver her an ultimatum just brake up with her

 

"fuck me or I'm dumping you"

How the fuck did you even get yourself in this situation?

She obviously wants emotional stability and verification, and has no interest in you, or no interest in sex.

And you obviously are a little sucked in by her thing but mostly just want sex.

 

There are millions of fixer-uppers in the world,if that's your thing. There are also millions that don't need fixed. Take your pick. Dead lasts a long time and comes all too soon--so--do what suits you and don't take responsibility for what some other person will do if you want to find happiness without them. Referance your plums,in this case.

 

It might sound shallow to dump her, but a lifetime without sex is not easy for a 21 yr old.

 

Call your girl friend its time you had the talk give your reasons say its not her fault