This girl is so mentally screwed up. Should I do something?

I met this girl back in September of last year. I could immediately tell this girl was very shy but I thought she might open up after awhile. I've been talking to this girl every day and she has never opened up to me. She is a complete mute and she doesn't seem to like anything and has NO interests at all. When I talk to her, its like talking to a wall or its like talking to a shy 4th grader. She is 22 year old woman. Lets call her Katie.

Katie moved all the way across country because she's a 'lesbian' who met a 'girl' online. The 'girl' she met online bought her a bus ticket to travel 2000 miles from home to meet her for a few days. But the 'girl' only bought her a one-way bus ticket and when Katie arrived at the bus station, the 'girl' turned out to be a 50 year old creeper man. Katie is incredibly naive and she has never experienced life at all. That's why she doesn't have any interests or things to talk about because she is very naive and inexperienced at life. This 50 yr old man (Mike), realized this from the beginning about her and managed to manipulate her enough to make her believe he just needed 'someone to talk to' and that he would be depressed if she left.

Since Katie came here with no money and no brain, she decided to go with Mike and live with him for awhile. Not only that, but this 'lesbian' decided to date him because she thought he was 'nice'. But according to her, he lied to her the entire time and obviously he sounds like bad news. She finally found out he was lying to her when she realized Mike was being arrested for warrants. I'm not quite sure what he was being arrested for, but she lied to the cops for him and that ended up putting her in jail/on probation. Now, Katie is a very fragile, shy girl who has never done anything wrong in her life. But she went to jail for a night and her probation forces her to not leave this state. Mike ended up going to jail for a long time. Katie got screwed over and had nowhere to live and ended up living with his ex wife and kids. This is when I met her.

She told me a few things about him. She said one time he held a gun to her head and made her perform fellatio on him. I know she has a deep hatred for this guy because the only time she ever talked was when she spoke about this guy. This girl has no confidence and when I met her, I tried to help her gain some confidence. Katie is very hard to work with. She quit school when she was 14, she never paid attention in school and she has never held a job in her life. Plus she doesn't talk and she has no interest in anything at all. Katie wants to do nothing in life but be a model. But this girl has never modeled and she tries way too hard to pose, she blinks in every picture and on a scale of 1-10, I'd give her a 3.5. I did choose to help her gain some confidence. I gave her 70% of my clothes (since she only had the clothes on her back) and I even let her borrow a very expensive lace wig that looked very good on her. It actually changed her looks completely. Even changed her personality... for the worse.

This was 3 weeks ago. I let her borrow my wig, did her her makeup (professionally), got her a photo shoot and gave her all my clothes. I told her to be very careful with my wig and allowed her to borrow everything for a week. A week later, I notice she's been treating me like s*it and going overboard with her new "I think I'm hot'' personality. She is posting very unflattering photos of her on facebook and she has been making very risky decisions within the past few weeks. She told me she was going out and having sex for money with this guy and she needs to keep my wig because this guy only likes long hair. She keeps telling me how special he is and how he means a lot to her. Then she decided to go with him to his house, 3 hours away, and have sex with him for money. She left my wig there and now she's treating me like sh*t and doesn't want to be my friend. She says she could get it this weekend but this girl has completely dropped conversation with me all together. Anytime I express that I'm worried about her, she thinks I'm being a b*tch and a c*nt and any word that is not part of her usual vocabulary. Then I found out that the guy who brought her here in the beginning, just got out of jail and she is now "engaged" to him and she thinks I'm trying to ruin what they have. She is completely insane. What should I do? Should I try to talk to her or just stop talking to her? Should I continue to ask for my stuff back? Should I talk to someone else? This girl is so messed up in the head.

 

It's probably in your best interst to cut your losses.

 

yup

 

it's great to care about people, but you really can't save someone who doesn't want to save themselves

if you wanted to, maybe you could write her a letter expressing everything that you feel you need to say to her

beyond that, I don't think there is much you can do

 

:2thumbsup:

 

Give her LSD.

 

if she does not like you or want to be involved with you, then why waste your time?

 

fluttersteke, you are an amazingly loving and giving person. Don't think you accomplished nothing - it sounds like this girl has discovered some semblance of personal will and direction with the boost you gave her. Spiritually speaking, that's progress.

It looks like she's making very bad decisions with her newfound will, but considering how fucked up she is, this is not exactly unexpected. You'll get nowhere with her by expressing worry or concern. If you really want to be her friend and continue to have some input in her life, find something to be happy about for her. If she gets to a point where she'll share her life and decisions with you, don't give advice - don't tell: Ask. Ask her how she feels about things, ask her what she's going to do, ask her if she has considered certain aspects you think she might have missed. Don't sound worried or judging. And don't let her drag you down with her, dear.

May the spirits repay you tenfold for your love and generosity.

 

Take good notes for yourself here cause you got a lot to learn. Your kindness is good but it sounds like the old pearls before swine routine. Get your stuff back if you can, otherwise write it off as the price of tuition in the school of hard knocks. Be sure to be kind to yourself as you get out of this nasty mess

 

**sigh** no good deed goes unpunished.

this is truism is why i'm a hermit .

((fluttersteke))

 

Fluttersteke, You did a great thing by trying to help this girl, if anything you changed her life around but it was up to her to do the rest which she apparently is not stable enough to grow up. You did a great job though and I'm sure karma will repay you even if you never get your stuff back

 

Why help someone who doesn't need it anymore? Just ditch her, duh

 

yeah, you could still help her.

your going to hate what i'm about to say.
call in adult protective services on her.
from what you have said, she sounds incomptented to take care of herself.
she may need to go before the courts, and declared a ward of the state.

yes, that option does super suck indeed!
if you do this, most likely, you will lose her friendship for good.

if you are unwilling to take this extrem step, then all i can do is add my voice to what others have said in this thread... cut your loses while your ahead.

 

She played you?