ive been married for 4 years now and ivecome to realise thatme and my wife are so different. i asked a mate earlier if, when he says to his girl that he will do anything she wants to do that evening he looks forward to doing it? he says yes of course! i was surprised as i dread doing things with my wife as we share no real interests. it got me thinking, i dont like doing stuff with her, i try and get out of spending time with her, i want to have sex with other women, i no longer find her attractive, when we do have sex it is pretty boring and i fantasize about other women. i do love her but i am miserable, what can/should i do about this guys? i dont want to hurt her but again i dont want to regret the rest of my life. Ideas please?
This is a tough situation you are dealing with and I deal with clients everyday with the exact same issue. You are miserable, and she loves you, and you love her. In love things change. We move away from the Eros phase of love which is where all you want to do is go at it like animals and spend every waking second together. Then time goes by and then you turn into more like companions. You do not have to share every interest with each other. Do your hobbies, and let her do hers. Go out with your mates and let her go out with hers. This little distancing physically might help. There comes a point in a marriage where you must make a conscious decision though to love your spouse, and to be committed. After some time start going to each others hobbies, even if it doesn't interest you to know her hobbies and share them, she will find great happiness in you caring and sharing. And she will do the same in return. Try that out! If you need more advice you could always private message me on here ( once I figure out how to find them!)
