Hi I am new here so this may have cropped up before: I have been dating a girl since December, this is my first sexual relationship. Up to meeting her I had never masturbated or come whilst being awake. I was a virgin up to about 2 weeks ago, although we had previous attempts that didn't work out. What I have noticed is that whenever she is giving me a handjob, I am unable to orgasm unless I think of really dirty thoughts (one of my fetishes in fact), and sometimes even that does not work. It was worth mentioning that I have orgasmed once in the three times we have had sex (the first time). The odd thing is she has had sex plenty of times before me (she said she calculated it to be roughly 500) so she is not inexperienced, but I am. Any thoughts/comments? Thanks.
well yeah, you have to think of what turns you on in order to orgasm. shit's half physical, half mental. be thankful you're not a girl, theirs are about 90% mental.
Yeah I know, my girlfriend said she has only orgasmed once (not from me). But I feel my problem is quite severe; I have only orgasmed from a handjob like 5 times in 12 or so, or is that normal? I have no idea.
It's hard for me to believe you'd never masturbated. How did you manage that? And yeah sex is way mental. Especially, as forty mentioned, for girls. But there's a strong mental AND visual element for guys. Does you girlfriend ever get all dolled up for you to help get you in the mood. That's what works best for my boyfriend. Truthfully you should really be talking to her about your fantasies and her with you about hers. One of the best parts of sex is having someone who loves you that doesn't mind doing, saying, wearing, acting out, etc., the things you have in your fantasies. And from experience, sex stuff with a partner just get's better as you get to know each other more. It's always kind of awkward and difficult at first. First time I had sex with my current boyfriend it was not real great for me, or him. I remember a lot of laughing and a lot of, "I'm sorry", "Just a second while I catch my breath", and stuff like that. But now, geeze he can bring me to an orgasm pretty damn quick just by fingering me. But that all comes with time, practice, communication, and trying to fulfill the fantasies of each other.
Well I don't know really, I mean I did become horny a lot but never felt the need to 'sort it out'. I spent a lot of time researching and experimenting with spanking (which is my fetish) which overtook masturbation I guess. Weird huh. Well thanks for the comments
You first say you'd never even masturbated. Then you talk about your fetishes. You're very fake. Fetishes take time and an open mind to develop, not something you have in 2 weeks after being an innocent virgin for life.
i cum really fast!!! Can anybody tell how to control and have a longer and sattisfied sex?. my girlfriend really cannot enjoy the sex completely
OP: Start masturbating man. You're only getting off to your kinky fantasies because you haven't taught yourself to just come from physical pleasure easily. Gotta train your body. You also have to train your body. There is one simple trick that will make you last longer forever. Masturbate, and everytime you get 95% close to orgasm, stop for 30 seconds. It takes willpower. If you feel you're about to cum anyways, you can either squeeze your penis at its base, press into the area of skin between your balls and ass, or just get up and think neutral boring thoughts (office work, whatever). After you've waited a minute, start again, and get to 95% again. Repeat as many times as you can without going crazy. Do this every day, and you will be able to last longer and longer.
is there any pill or some external agent to make the sex longer(in case of male)... u know... to take more time to release the semen???
i think it's a side effect of a bunch of medications, although i don't know which ones. also pretty sure viagra's supposed to have that effect.
