Anyone spend too much time indoors?

When I go out on my own I feel really awkward, like people are juging me or something. The only time I get out is with my boyfriend but its getting old.



So most of the time I just sit around.

 

start kayaking

 

I'm kinda the same way, but i love the outdoors so much I just gotta get out!

 

Sorry to hear that you are having problems.

I'm a home-body. Everything that I like is indoors. Outdoors is alot of stuff that I don't like.

 

I only like the outdoors in a beautiful natural setting with few people in it. Most of the time I spend time inside a building inside of my head.

 

You can spend plenty of time outside of your house while avoiding judgemental people and socially awkward situations and overwhelmingly modern society. Just head to a mountain. Seek out a forest. Walk around a little wooded area. You get the idea.

If it weren't for nature I would never want to leave my house either. But I get really restless when I spend time indoors because I know theres this huge natural world out there to explore.

 

sounds like agoraphobia.. i made a group for us "indoor" types. http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/group.php?groupid=40

don't beat yourself up over it. celebrate small victories.

 

omg i'm the exact same way. it's cause i have social anxiety.

it's really frustrating cause i love the outdoors, nature and everything. thats the only thing i can connect to is nature.

but i cant even go out and ride my bike without feeling weird and awkward especially when i pass cars and i feel like the people inside are staring at me and judging me.

i hate being out in public but i love being outside. being cooped up in a box is no fun.

 

just so you guys know, no one is really judging you. Maybe some dickhead teenagers, but most adults are either mature enough to realize everyone is weird, or they're so self involved they don't notice other people.

 

My car randomly and suddenly died about a year back and I have been forced to bike it out ever since. Honestly its been great! I have a new-found love for the colder seasons (they really are beautiful and admirable) and now respect simply just getting to where I'm heading.

However I know that exact feeling of cars flying by and staring you down. It gets really bad at busy traffic intersections where many are so bored around you that I've noticed that the pedestrian draws overwhelming attention. I generally have to keep my head down to avoid getting that uncomfortable sense of paranoia. Don't look into their car windows, it may seem delusional, but I swear from overtly paying attention to it, every car that passes looks straight your way at least once. Perhaps just a mindless reaction, but still a bit unnerving for sure

Since then, I have been taking on the role of explorer. I'm always seeking the serene alternative slower-paced path in high hopes of avoiding the chaos of the car's commute.
But you need to go outside though! It is part of who we are; our inner animal desperately needs stimulation from its natural roots. Don't fight, submit, and gradually begin the shamanic healing path towards homeostasis.

The more you hide inside, the more you feed your anxieties, and in turn, will feel the burdening weight upon your shoulders of unfulfilled human experience

 

I feel really awkward doing a lot of things that I don't usually do, but if you think about it, nobody knows that you feel awkward unless you let them know, and most awkwardness is only awkward because you make it awkward, if that makes sense, so act confident and like nothing is abnormal and everything should be fine

 

Yeah but you can watch it on tv and it doesn't cost anything to get there.

I think guys are judging or thinking if they'd want to date you and girls are wandering if you'd steal their guy. But its a split second judgement. Most don't realize they're doing it. I think its instinctive. Old brain activity from they caveman days.

 

Yep, I do. I spend wayyyy to much time inside for the simple fact that I'm afraid I will get shot if I go outside...I live in the ghetto.....in the ghettoooo!

 

Try not giving a fuck.
It works well for me.
The fact of the matter is.. it's completely unavoidable anyways.
People are going to formulate opinions about you at first glance, it's human nature for us to judge others and try to figure out what they're about.
These assumptions are often wrong and there's always more to a person then our speculations... but people still do it anyways.
Nobody really cares enough to stop in their tracks and hate you.
They'll think something and then continue on their path. These thoughts can't harm you.
No matter what you do, even if you blend in with the sheep. Someone out there is still going to dislike you.
Some people are just dicks, but you can't let the dicks get in the way of your exploring.

Just be whoever you are! Really let your freak flag fly. Either way there are dicks, but if you just be yourself and have fun then you meet people who really like you for you.

This way you can come and go as you please.

 

^ good advice wild flowers



yeah I know what you guys mean about biking. whenever I bike or run or walk somewhere there are always people in cars that look at me. I do not care though unless it is those stupid teenagers that like to scream at random people. You gotta realize most people have a natural curious reaction to see whoever it is outside.


yeah I agree with what some of you have said. I feel most at peace in nature. I go hiking often. and make sure to always do at least 1 big camping trip every year.

If you wanna beat social anxiety then you gotta put yourself in social situations often. get used to being around people.

 

I like this! This sounds like me! :sunny: I know what the original poster is saying about the 'awkwardness' sometimes. I'm a bit of a contradiction tho...I'm also more than happy to move hundreds of miles away from home and start a whole new life. Nevertheless I do feel this quite outdoors feeling to often, and therefore am much happier indoors! Keep trying to start a class or something on my own 'outside', but not done it yet. Learning to drive atm tho - think thats really gonna help! :2thumbsup:

 

i have enough stuffed animals in the house to keep me company..

 

I feel the same way S.Z! I have a few good friends and my girlfriend and sometimes we go out, but it too is getting old.

You're not alone! :2thumbsup:, Infact I used to have such intense social paranoia that I could barely go outside...

I'm doin' pretty good now, here's what I did.
1. Stopped doing all recreational drugs
2. Started a daily regiment of buproprion (Sp?)
3. Started eating healthy (V8, Good breakfast etc)
4. Started working out
5. Forced myself to socially interact.

Don't get my wrong, I'm still a basketcase, still crazy, still never going to quite fit in that standard social stigma everyone seems to have. But now I can find people like myself to relate to!

Hope this helps!

 

I feel like I'm bound to my hose by magic cause I like never leave it

 

I have a hunch it is the result of too many drugs? You cannot continue to take amphetamines and NOT end up with a social phobia. It destroys the mind and robs you of your sanity faster than anything. Look into taking a homoeopathic preparation of the drug that screwed you...Look up shrooms before you take anymore of them too. If not try cognative behavoural therapy and continue to expose yourself a little. I'm a naturopath. My advice is informed...it's not an opinion. I suffer from BDD....and i'm getting old!!!! I do cognitive behavioural therapy myself and lots of meditation and lots of pets. Animals are very healing both for mental and physical issues. Good luck