I'm on an awkward situation right now, I don't usually ask for opinions on the internet, but this time I'll take my chances and see if it is helpful. So this is a usual girl problem, a couple of years ago I had a bad break-up with this girl, we were dating for 3 months or so, nothing very serious at the time, but I was starting to like this girl a lot. So when we had to break up due to some schedule issues, we couldn't get together too much time, so we start to argue more than usual and that kind of stuff so we decided to break up. I had a very hard time accepting that and always had that sensation that we could have it so much better... So time passed and after a month we decide to talk face to face and she ends up telling me that since the break up she started to like a guy... Well hearing that just made me pissed of, but I kept the cool and we decided to be friends. Because I hated the situation and I knew I eventually would talk to her more then it should be, I decide to delete her phone number, block her from my msn and delete from my friends list on facebook. Some time later I was healing and she eventually add me again and I accepted, one month after that conversation she talked to me on msn and I just ignored her, I was did not meant to be mean, I was just "protecting" myself from falling in love with her again. Some months later she sent me a message with her new phone number, I didn't save it. The time has passed and everything was ok so I decided to move on and started dating this girl, and still today for an year and half, she makes me happy and she's very pretty and interesting, so i can say I'm happy overall. One day a friend of mine who is from a little far and is a friend of my ex aswell was in town, so I decided to go get with him, even though I knew she probably would be there, I went. And she was there, I completly ignored her, just because I was doing that all that time. This ecounter didn't messed me to much, so I was happy she didn't mess with my feelings anymore, some months later I foun that she broke up with that guy she had feeling for after we broke up, I didn't care to much. So a year have passed, and I'm still very happy with my current gf, yesterday I was hanging out with my friends, so we decided to go to a market nearby to get some drinks, guess what? My ex was there, it was very improbable to find her there, but I did found her. She started to stare at me and I had no choice, at least, to greet her and had a quick meaningless convo. The thing was that she looked very good and seemed that everything was ok between us despite the fact that I was ignoring her, after that surprise encounter, it messed a little with me, much more than what I expected, and now I want to see her again and talk a little. Suddently I gained a lot of interest for her and it is starting to confuse me, because I'm afraid this is a bad sign for my current relationship. I love my gf, and my feeling for her didn't change from yesterday for today, but now I have this thing with my ex, and I know I should wait, but other part of me doesn't want to wait and wants to take the "stupid decision" that is to get in touch with my ex gf... Sorry about the huge text, I just hope someone read it and try to help me or give me the opinion. Thanks in adavnce
Seriously, that all sounded a lot like someone asking for permission to cheat... You say you love your gf, but then you say you know you should wait... wait for what? For your current relationship to end? Either honor your commitment to your girlfriend, or break up with her. Here's a clue... have you told your girlfriend (the one you supposedly love and want a life with) that you have been talking to your ex?
I meant wait to this feeling to go away again, I don't intend to talk again with my ex, that's why I said wait to everything go back to normal basis. And I haven't been talking to her, I just saw her randomly yesterday... And yes I told my gf that I saw her
If you don't plan on talking to her anymore, where is the dilemma? The only dilemma in what you present was whether or not you should talk to her... If you were just looking for support in that it is sometimes hard to control our emotions, you got it, it is hard sometimes... and our minds are usually our own worst enemies. However, the way to deal with those issues, is to be firm in who you are, and keep your commitments or make a change to them. Breaking them, should never be an option. The fact that you say you did tell your gf about it, is the most important part of it all... be honest with her and as you talk through these things, you should remember why you are with her, and not your ex.
It sound like you are not over you ex. Writing this mush about her, you are not fare to your gf, you should not be dating her
Took the words right out of my mouth, I have to agree with this. Is she the first person you've been "in love" with? I know that first love with most people is hardest to let go! Even with me, when I was dumped by my ex of two years, I was devastated beyond any relationship break up I've ever been in afterwards. Even until this day, If I were to see her, my knees would get week because those feelings will always be there! But really, don't risk your current gf for your ex. If you are as Happy as you say you are you wouldn't even second question it. And besides, your ex sounds wishy washy, so you don't want a roller coaster ride like that anyway! You're better off just being stable. But hey, do what you want! It's your life!
