i took my girlfriends virginity in january, she really enjoys sex by now but cant achieve an orgasm during sex... we will fuck for an hour and she still cant finish. at times when im really giving it to her she makes me stop because she feels like she has to pee. is this normal? were gonna use a vibrator soon, hopefully that will get her to cum
The urge to urinate may, or may not, be a sign that she is approaching an orgasm. Emptying the bladder prior to lovemaking is something you could do. Mind you, many women also require clitoral stimulation to reach an orgasm. Just pounding in and out, without having an understanding of which part of her is stimulated by doing so, may even be physically irritating. Really the best way to approach your situation is to know what kind of stimulation brings her to an orgasm. If it's mostly clitoral, then be have her clit receive a lot of attention during the actual intercourse. If she is able to orgasm from penetration, then learn HOW she is able to achieve an orgasm. G-spot generally responds well to pressure type stimulation as opposed to friction. Returning to the matter regarding her urge to urinate... If you two have been making love for a prolonged period of time, and given that she otherwise does not have to urinate at that moment, there is a chance that what she is experiencing may, or may not, be a start of what is referred to as "female ejaculation". Prolonged lovemaking essentially means she has been aroused for that much longer, which in turn means she has accumulated that much more "ejaculate" within her. There is a great(but rather long, lol) video on female ejaculation called "The Art Of Female Ejaculation" made by a company called Holistic Wisdom. You may want to check this video out. You should be able to find it on a typical porn site like xhamster, though, I wouldn't classify this video as "porn" per se myself. Another thing you two may want to try is to create a setting where she can become comfortable enough to actually keep going as her urge to urinate occurs. The video talks about the psychological comfort aspect of this as well. If it's pee, then it's pee. Mind you, we all develop the urge to urinate, often after the prolonged arousal and the plateau phases, and certainly a short while after an orgasm. This is the body's way of making sure that any unwanted bacteria will not get into your body through the urethra. This is why it is important, especially for females since they have shorter urethra, to urinate after sex. If you find out it's not pee, then you've got yourself a squirter for a girlfriend. That's a hot thought actually, lol.
the urge to pee means she's about to squirt but it's a reaaaalllyyy uncomfortable feeling for most girls. Clit-stim will definitely lead her to orgasm if you do it the right way. Good luck!
It's not at all unusual for a woman to have difficulty reaching orgasm through intercourse alone. There are positions though, in which it's possible to have intercourse and still stimulate the woman's clitoris manually. Or you may find it better to stimulate her to orgasm orally or manually before intercourse. That can relieve the pressure to "perform" and intercourse may actually become more enjoyable for both of you (and orgasms might just start happening there more easily too). I think you two should work on your communication a little more. Encourage her to tell/show you what feels best to her. Mutually enjoyable sex doesn't happen right away for most couples. It takes time, practice, patience, communication and a committment to learning how best to bring pleasure to each other. Good luck. And happy practicing.
Try eating it first. Some girls cum easier from oral. Mine cums easier from oral then cums again as soon as I put my dick in it.
