This is probably incredibly predictable, but I've looked around and found no real answer (but plenty of ads!) to my question. I'm an Aries Woman. I've known a certain Leo man for nearly 8 years, been together off and on (he broke up with me twice) for about 3 years of that. We have amazing chemistry, confide in eachother secrets we tell no one else, finish eachother's sentences and thoughts.... The depth of how we know one another, and the love (I think, but its hard to tell now) we both have for one another made us an enviable couple. My female friends wished they had a man that was as good for them as for him for me, his male friends wished they could find a woman as good for them as I was for him. The first time we broke up, we were both incredibly stressed, and the relationship suffered. He came back begging, which isn't stereotypical, from what I read. I took him back. We made it 7 months, and he dropped me one day. That morning and afternoon, he was telling me how he loved me, missed me, I was perfect...and then literally by night, he said it wasn't what he wanted and he was done. He didn't even give me a chance to say anything on it. Yet, he didn't have any woman to fall back on, nor was he interested in any (shocking, yet true). This break up was three days after I got back from visiting with him for a month, during which he confessed he was seriously considering proposing, even though we had decided that we'd get engaged after our five year marker. In the end, he says he loves me, wants me, can see a future with me, but doesn't know what he wants and doesn't want a relationship. Two weeks after we break up, he starts dating a Capricorn woman. A friend introduced them after he and I broke up, and he took it upon himself to pursue her. He assures me he doesn't have any real feelings for her yet, and its only dating. He still asks how I am, wants me around, and behaves as if he wants me in his life romantically...but chooses not to. Mostly. He tries to, or tried to suggest to, seduce me, with his devilish grin that I've come to love intensely, and I decline. I want all of him, else he doesn't get all of me. Granted, I haven't been as physically active lately, or socialize much, which is atypical for being an Aries...and not usually me, individually. Life has been a it difficult lately. I can see this as unattractive to a Leo--Heck, it'd bother me! However... All this...rant...to ask, how do I get him back? He clearly has feelings and desires for me...but why doesn't he behave accordingly? What holds him back? And what can I do to push him over the fence into my yard and get him to actually stick around? Propose, even?
Others have probably said something similar, but all you can really do is what you are doing, be true to yourself and honest with both him and yourself. If you force him there will always be a tone of mistrust between the two of you that may simmer for a long time till it rears its head one day out of the blue. Is he between the ages of 28-31? If so he is going through a Saturn return. There are other returns which can wreak havoc in relationships. All of which are deeply personal and difficult for the other party to relate to. Is this a long distance romance? One of the best things to do right now is to take care of yourself, do things you love, and build your dreams that are independent of a relationship. If it is meant to be, it will.
No, we are both between 18-25 years of age. It was a long distance romance, off and on, and ended as one.
I empathize, the pain of the loss of a beloved companion is rarely an easy road to travel. You still have many many years ahead of you. Maybe this isn't the best time to push back into a relationship or maybe it is. Only you can make that choice. You can lessen the pain by using this time to engage in new pursuits, school, a new career path, volunteering for a local group, even a new kitten. Be kind to yourself, know that the best will happen be it with him or someone else or with him down the road.
