Being Honest With Women

I was wonder what women think about men being completely upfront and honest with them and also guy what do you think about being honest and upfront with women?

I personally think that being upfront and honest with women is really important to having a healthy relationship. I know a lot of people who just aren't honest with their intentions and they just get no where with the relationships they try and develop.

So what is your opinion?

 

I think No.1 would be with both male and female is that they cant be honest with you if they themselves arent sure.

Whether its an ltr or even marriage, you really have no idea if you are going to be compatible in 5/10/20 yrs time.

Most people are never really sure what they want to do with their lives, so assessing the partner is no different

 

Being honest with your partner is very important. Of course, there are things you may find difficult to voice. But I personally believe it may become easier to do so as you and your partner gain and nurture the trust you have toward each other, through the love you share and by communicating well.

 

I only respect a woman that can handle the truth.

I don't see why anyone would get in a relationship only to play games with each other. If you aren't being honest, what's the point?

 

I like honesty.

 

....Yup and trust without these key components any relationship is kaputs!

 

+1

I like how my friend described his relationship on Facebook: "It's complicated with X." :biggrin:

 

Women say they want complete honesty until they actually get it. "The reason I am not initiating sex more often is because you cut your hair short like a man's, gained to much weight, dress like a bag lady and have become a nag. I love you but you really have given up. You've made yourself unattractive to me."

 

By the way, I LOVE that this thread specifies women.

 

Honesty is one of the most important elements in a relationship. I can't stand when the opposite sex just wants to play games. People should be able to be up front about their feelings with their partner.

 

being honest with your partner is very important. being honest with a woman that you want to make your partner ensures that you will die a lonely virgin.

 

Honesty is imperative...if you are finding yourself being dishonest with your partner you need to leave. The relationship is already over.

That said, I am all for kind evasion.

guy (as he pushes a large dildo into his partner): "Do you like this more than when I fuck you."

woman: "To me you are fucking me either way."

It's important to be honest from the get-go. If you don't have an relationship to offer someone but still want to have sex, be honest about that. And about what you do have to offer.

Woman: "You really turn me on but I don't know what I want right now beyond that. I just want to be honest so I don't hurt you."

Guy: "Wow, I appreciate your honesty. How about we agree to just enjoy this for what it is, not read too much into it, and just keep each other posted if our feelings start to clarify?"

See? And I have guy friends that can attest to it working the other way around too. If you are honest from the beginning that won't prevent the other person from playing games - but at least they can't say you are.

There are also nicer ways to tell a woman something that will get you what you want...and still be honest.

Telling a woman she's 'just like a guy' will only drive her to find someone who doesn't think so.

Telling a woman how much you miss running your fingers through her long hair, feeling it brush against your skin, watching it frame her face...wow, so sexy. Then asking if she would mind growing it out again. Is much more effective while still being honest.

 

Guy: "You really turn me on but I don't know what I want right now beyond that. I just want to be honest so I don't hurt you."

Woman:

 

Care to extrapolate this?

 

umm, i'm not sure how it would be extrapolated...


the point was that unless you are genuinely a loud douchebag, if you want to get a woman's interest you have to play the game, which is by definition dishonest.

 

What about the game is dishonest though? Any man or woman chooses to play "the game". It isn't the interaction that is dishonest, it's the person that makes it dishonest.

I have yet to be terribly dishonest with a woman, yet I will not die a virgin.

I'm not trying to be argumentative. Just pointing out that honesty does get one far with certain people. Sure the average scene seems to be a place full of players who shoot out answers like they're at a job interview, saying anything to get the gig. But in my experience, and opinion, the best people one could want to be around are those who don't buy into bullshit. And they are people who cannot be bought with dishonest rhetoric.

 

every single time i ever make a blanket statement, it's actually just a hyperbole for the purposes of humor and getting my point across.

see example here^

the interaction is dishonest in that it's not how you actually behave, unless you're forced to do so by the rules of the game.

 

I've found that generally speaking, there are two types of guys. There are the guys that play the game and feed a girl a bunch of bullshit just to get in her pants. Then there are the guys that do the polar opposite of the game, in that they start acting clingy way too soon, think they're in love within a week of knowing a girl, share way too much personal information way too soon, want to give up their own lives and spend every waking minute with whatever girl they're talking to at the moment...

There is a rare, third group and this is the coolest type of guy of all. These are the guys that are genuine and honest, but actually take the time to get to know a girl and take things slow. These guys act cool without being dicks about it. These guys hold back pieces of themselves until they're sure the girl wants and can accept these parts of him.

Its about finding a good balance. You can avoid playing the game and still find a girl that will be into you.

that actually applies to both genders.

 

One of the guys at the gym gets 3 new women a week off that line. They always respond back with sexy pictures and text messages to his phone.
He then forwards them to me...I don't know who else though. He does tell them he's sending them to me though which is just a way of keeping them at arms length. Brag to your friends, sure - but don't tell her that you are bragging unless you are looking for a way to keep her from getting too close.

 

*hardcore lightbulb moment*

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