I am concerned that my mother doesn't like my boyfriend of 2 years and I am not really sure what to do about it. Yesterday my boyfriend and I drove to my parents house to Easter. While at the dinner table my boyfriend asks my mom if she had tried a certain tea before. She stated no, and he asked why (you know having a conversation style) and she snapped at him like he had asked her a very sensitive question. Then later on he was trying to make a joke to lighten the mood, and she took offense to that. It wasnt even an off color joke. It feels like every time I bring him to the house, she has some reason to snap at him or glare at him. I am not sure what to do or how to handle it so any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Depending on the tone in which the Why? was delivered I may have taken offense. It's sometimes not what's said but how it's said. Then again if your mother has taken a serious dislike to your partner for no reason that you can see, you need to ask what her problem is. Maybe she just doesn't like him and there's nothing you can do about that. Tell her he's your chosen boyfriend and he's staying around and there's nothing she can do about it. Maybe then she'll rethink her attitude.
Parents often have high expectations for their children. There doesn't seem to be a paticular reason for this type of attitude towards him. Sounds like you should have a talk with mom and get to the bottom of this. If you plan on having a life with this guy you need to explain that to her and hopefully she accepts it. If she can't, personally wouldn't come over for dinner until she can show some respect.
Is it possible that she knows something about him that you do not? I know one girl that recently got engaged to a guy a bit older than she is. The family did not like him because of his mannerisms. But, last week, her stepfather informed her that her boyfriend is also a registered sex offender. Does your guy have any skeletons?
Your mother needs to learn some manners as well as some social skills. Next time you need to speak up immediately. For the record, I would have told your mother off if she was in fact out of line and then left. If you didn't leave with me, we would be done.
yeah, like other people said, sounds like a good idea to talk to her and find out what is going on could just be she wouldn't like any guy you are with this is the stereotypical thing, that the mothers don't like who their daughters choose if you can't work things out, maybe it's better for the two of you not to visit her your bf should also not feel like he has to take crap from her. I think if he gives her the what for when she messes with him, she'll pipe down. either that, or there will be a big blow up, in which case you should not visit with her hope that things work out!
