Hello everyone! My name is Brandon. I'm 19 and I feel like I'm having some pretty big issues with my girlfriend. The problem is, when we have sex, I take about an hour to an hour and a half to finish. That's only the first time finishing, and she ends up finishing 2-4 times in that period. I never even get to finish at all because she's worn out. We ended up getting into an argument last night because she feels like I don't find her sexy or care about her a lot, and that's not true at all!! Could anyone help me figure out a way to resolve this? Seriously, it would be a HUGE help. I've tried asking her to go down on me, because that's usually what will get me off, but she doesn't like doing that, and she also doesn't want me going down on her. Does anyone have any tips on how I can persuade her to let me service her, as well as ways to ease over the issue of her going down as well? I'm not a sex expert, so any advice you guys can give will be really appreciated.
dump her she sounds really unwilling to satisfy you sexually when you sound more than that to satisfy her. she should be happy her guy can last so long and get her off so many times. she's a prude
You're shiting me - right? I mean your 19 and it takes you an hour and a half to cum the 1st time. Hell, when I was 19 I could cum 6 times in 1 hour if I thought about a lot of baseball. Are you on Paxel, or zoloft or something - they can do that to a guy. Either get off the meds are face up to this farce.
No, I don't take medication. I really like this girl and I want to make things work, but for some reason it just takes me a while. I never really thought it would be a problem...
It might be some kind of psychological thing keeping you from finishing. A lot of women suffer from this problem but its rare to find a guy with that problem. I think your girl should consider herself lucky. When I was 19 my boyfriend could barely last 5 minutes. Come to think of it, even as I got older and started dating older guys, I never really found a guy that could last longer than 15 minutes. She gets to get off 2-4 times and she's complaining? Maybe your solution is for her to have sex with someone that finishes within 5 minutes then promptly goes to sleep without taking care of her first. You should probably figure out why you aren't getting off.
Exactly. The daft bint doesn't realise her luck - She's hooked up with some kind of sexual athlete. Brandon you've done nothing wrong, don't let this inhibited little girl undermine your confidence. Christ I wish I could last an hour and a half.
The Chinaman has a good point. I just posted so I could say that The Chinaman has a good point. It isn't something I get to say in my everyday speech. Stay Brown, Rev J
A psychological thing? I never really looked at it that way. What type of issues are you referring to? I do sort of feel like she doesn't want to go down or anything like that because she's disgusted. Any tips on that? Because that would make things easier. And I don't want her to feel like she's not sexually stimulating. Ugh, problems problems ha.
:rofl: Haha, you're awesome, Rev. ...but really, everyone does make a good point. As for going down, have you asked her why she has a problem with giving/receiving?
I'm 35, and with a woman who is 42. It takes me awhile, too. But here are a few things that contribute to my "problem" (it's not a problem at all for her): 1) My age. Sometime between 30-35 years old I went from being horny all the time to being horny some of the time. 2) Tired. If it is midnight after a long day of work - I'm often not in the mood 3) ALCOHOL. Ever hear of the phrase "whisky dick"? 4) How many times I've done it lately. The second time usually takes longer, the third per night is nearly impossible. If you masturbate often, try cutting back. 5) Position. With my current partner, it took a few tries to find the positions that worked best for our respective geometries.
Well she just tells me she doesn't like it. And won't let me give either. So it sort of bothers me. We do usually do it at night, and I stay solid and want hr the whole one, but it just takes a LONG time.
well I could be way off base, it was just a thought. I know when women take a really long time to get off or can't get off at all with a partner, its usually because they're too inhibited to really let go and get into the moment. as for not going down on you, i don't really know what to suggest. You could try to talk her into letting you go down on her first and lead by example, then tell her it would mean a lot to you if she would do it to you too. If that doesn't work, then I really don't know.
I usually have the same problem. It takes me awhile to get off, the only difference is I don't get complaints. Instead of trying to fix the timeframe, trying changing of the sex. Switch position often and try new things. That way it's just not you pounding away for an hour and a half. Your girl sounds kind of prusish to be honest. However, she may just need you to take charge. Instead of asking her for a bj midsex, tell her to. It may sound like an asshole thing to do but girls love a man that takes charge. If she's not willing to open up a little in the bedroom, it might be time to move on.
I have the same problem, but my girlfriend is fairly ecstatic about my "problem". I will tell you that it has gotten "better" with more and more sex, and now, if I really am in the right frame of mind and focus properly, I can finish in a few minutes like "normal" sex. But if I want I can still just go indefinitely. What helps is cutting back on masturbation, going slower during sex, being more in the moment, and learning to get lost in the feelings. I find that the reason I can't come quickly is because my mind is not ready to. So it is purely mental. I imagine when you masturbate you're able to bring yourself to climax quite quickly if you want?
This is what internet porn has done to my generation, me included. You're too used to your hand, I expect. Give it a rest with yourself. Chances are, if she was really cumming, she wouldn't be bitching. I bet she's fakin' it. You ain't dong nothin' wrong, don't let her make you feel bad because she doesn't have the talent to get you to finish faster
