friends and immediacy

who do you consider your friends?

we were talking here, about having many many friends, or having a very select "echelon" of friends..
i guess that with too many friends you divide your mind and scatter ourself into too many sparse parts,
and with a select group you narrow your world too much and cut out many possibilities...

i have always been very expansive and wide-open about friends, i feel that so so many people are my friends..
and i think for me it is about what is happening now and what is dead-recent for us that influences me...
i wonder a lot if some people are able to objectively see their whole past with a person, to objectively comb over their events...



i feel that things happen in a immediate way, and then they take on a color and impression immediately -
and after that it becomes closed-off somewhat, it stops growth - and the first impression has already fermented and solidified and just become more permanent.
i love the power of an immediate impression, and i also hate the stubborn unconditional-ness of it...

 

"friend" has several definitions for me. depending on which meaning i'm using, i could have anywhere from 0 to a couple hundred.

 

one time i painted on my wall, "SIMPLIFY"
i had to pull out the couch to stand on, so i could write the letters big...

but i know what you mean... it is real conditional, i do see it as gradations... classifications...
but i feel there is a freedom when you have let things go and have forgotten them, that i like...

 

There are many people that I know. There are also many people that refer to me as a friend. But, there are only a few people that I refer to as a friend. That is a title that is not thrown around like a piece of trash. It is a status that is EARNED by being a true friend in return.

 

I'm planning on poising all my friends once they've accepted the eternal light of Rha, lord of the sun, to enjoy their place amongst the stars.

 

there are a few people I consider my best friends, then there are friends that hang out in the same group that I adore but never have one-on-one time with like I do with my best friends, then there are friends of those friends that hang out in the same group that I don't really know that well but still call them my friends because we're all friends. yeah.

 

I use the word "friend" because "acquaintance" is too long.

 

My kids and 2 or 3 that I have known for 65 fricken years. I don't look to make any new friends.

Altho,I must add that are quite a few on the forums that I could see being friends with in "real" life.

 

i have two important friends, about ten normal friends and about plenty of acquaintances.

 

Friends are like houseplants, they seem to shrivel up if you don't water them.. In this lifetime I can count a very few as real friends (my children being my best friends). I do seem to have a soft spot in my heart/head for the eccentrics in this world.

 

they're not really.

 

I think the friendships you have in life are a reflection of the friend you are to others.

 

Which is which?

 

There is certainly plenty of truth in that.

 

:frown:

don't worry - i'm just playing eccentric :mickey:

 

'Friends' is a word that can have many definitions added to it.

A 'true friend' is supposedly someone who sticks it with you through and through.

An 'Acquaintance' is someone you meet but will not see very often.

A 'best friend' is the 'true friend' you hang with mostly.

I had a big falling out with my friends recently. Turns out they weren't friends at all, they were just 'Acquaintances'. They had a problem dealing with that fact, so I got nasty and butchered it. It was a lost cause anyways. I've made some new friends, so its all good.

 

Not worrying brother I'm just playing too.

 

I have some really good blood brother type friends. I have a whole lot more buddies that I do things with (fishing, skiing, hiking, hunting, biking, whatever), and a whole lot more acquaintances.

 

I keep myself open to making friends of all walks of life. I have had that tight click of friends that were more like family after twenty years and had one of em stick a knife in my back because his girlfriend told him to...I have had friends that I've known a short time make sacrifices for me. If new people are cool, get to know them, if they are screwed up beneath the surface then back off, if not they may be someone you are glad to know.

 

I have a few close friends. I love them all. some acquaintances that I don't really talk to. I only really talk to my close friends that I have known since high school. Some I see more than others.