are you still in love with your girlfriend? this situation really depends on your level of committment. If you really want a future with your girlfriend, you need to put this other girl out of your mind. This could also be a sign that you should rethink your relationship.
(Sorry for breaking up the post) Thanks for your imput. I realize this isn't a real problem compared to most, I just clearly have nobody to speak to about this.
Sounds like pretty much what mell said. Maybe you've decided you love your girlfriend, but the emotion your feeling has been some lower level of like/friendship. If you care about your girlfriend, it's pretty obvious what you need to do: respond in a way that makes it clear you're taken and not interested. That doesn't mean you have to be cold or a jerk, just make your position clear. Sounds like, whatever the situation with your girlfriend, you're flattered that a pretty face is interested in you. Got any self esteem issues? Make sure you're sending the right messages: that friends are cool (...and if you love your girlfriend... that 3-ways are cool ) but that you don't need more than a friend. She obviously can't be flirting that hard if she's not talking to you yet.... Just behave properly so that if she does, she's not expecting something she can't get.
At meliai, I do love her very much. I attribute part of how I feel to the fact that I have everything I want, so I am taking that for granted. To a degree. If that makes sense. Its so easy for us all to forget how lucky we all can be.
' Got any self esteem issues?' Ya tons I'm sure. Its so wierd, I know my girlfriends prettier. I think its something about wanting what I can't have.
well there ya have it. thats your solution. you don't want to lose your girlfriend so you don't need to do anything to lead this girl on. there is nothing wrong with making friends with a member of the opposite sex, except for the fact that you're attracted to this girl. You're setting yourself up for a situation in which you might be tempted to cheat. If you really don't want to lose your girlfriend you probably shouldn't put yourself in this situation. Crushes can be really fun, and two and a half years in a relationship can become routine and dull, no matter how much you care about your partner. I suggest investing the energy you're putting into thinking about this crush into spicing up your relationship a little. Take your girl on a vacation or do something that you guys did in the beginning of your relationship when everything was fresh and exciting.
yeah, i have a history of self-sabotage too. maybe you should go to her workplace and do something really embarrassing so you know you don't have a chance with her anymore.
You need to do something outrageous with your girlfriend. Take her on holiday, fuck her brains out. Also, you need friends. Make some. Get active. You wont have the time to think too much about things which could never happen and which ultimately, you wouldn't want anyway.
