Is this an arrogant statement in a family discussion?

A father and his 22 year old son are having a heated discussion. The son is talking about very difficult times from his childhood. His emotions are strong and he becomes belligerent. At one point he breaks down crying, at another he is out of control angry.

The father, at one point, in a reclined position and cool calm and collected as a professor is when he makes a key point to the class says the following:

"I don't think you like to here what I'm telling you." to expain the source of the emotional upset

Do you take that as arrogant and if so to what degree?

 

you mean "I dont think you like to hear what i'm telling you"?
or "I don't think you'd like to hear what i'm gonna to telling you"

 

More like "I don't think you like to hear what im telling you and thats what's really making you so angry and upset"

 

Id have to know both parties involved to make a judgement

i will say that at 22 its kind of dumb to be in a heated argument with a family member...by that age they should both know better

 

then its a rather pointless thing to say.
doesnt really make sense either.

if it was "i know you're not gonna like what i'm going to say.." then i can see a point in that cuz they'd be meaning 'regardless of you liking ___, listen to me'.

and did he say it in a bitchy way? cuz that'd make arrogance too.

 

That reminds me of being told by whatever jackass to "calm down" when I have been very upset or passionate about something. First of all, being told to "calm down" when I'm genuinely upset has the opposite effect. Secondly, I always think (as I do now) that such a detached thing to say as "I don't think you like to hear what I'm telling you" tells me "they" aren't and haven't even been listening.

A classic professor's ploy...pretend the other person doesn't understand when it's the prof that hasn't been listening nor trying to understand.

 

Either way it seems the father in the story is certin he isn't being heard in this conversation with his son. In my opinion, stateing an opinion like this in a conversation is not arrogant.

 

Without the benefit of details from the conversation I don't think a fair response can be rendered... and I suspect that with those details you just might not like what some people here will tell you.... just a feeling I get from reading how this is being presented.

 

Hey, I remember being 22 and knowing it all (LOL); but whatever (little) I did actually know could easily be knocked down by an authority figure, especially one that treats the young adult in a condescending way.

 

I almost hate to say this next: but in a few years, it won't make a lick of difference what it was all about. Just learn early not to get all worked up (crying, etc) if you want to make any points to anybody - (most) parents included.

 

Yep-

Being heated in an exchange suggests that one side may not have been listening as much as trying to force his side loudly into the conversation... and had expectations that the dad would respond in a way that he didn't.

 

I'm 26, and still get written off by my parents like this. It's arrogance on their part to assume that you're angry simply because you "deep down know that we're right and just don't want to admit it," and it's disrespectful to write your side of the argument off like that.