i am 27 in a lesbian relationship with a 30 year old egyptian woman i am having issues for many reasons 1: her parents are very religous and can not know she is a lesbian this i understand and was explained to me before i made the decision i wanted to be with her and i am ok with it it does however have an effect on me still because when we are out in places her parents or people who know them "might be" she gets anxious and less affectionate than any other time i can deal with this but it hurts but it makes me nervouse that she can be so ok with lying to her family about me it makes me trust her less she has tried exponentially to make an effort to be more affectionate in public she has previously been in a long term "lesbian" relationship but they where openly sleeping with other men which i am in no way ok with she says to me her last gf did not mind her being flirty or sexual with men for the majority of their relationship she is bi and so am i but i am very faithful not at all interested in being with anyone else boy or girl she says the same but in public she seems to have loose boundaires i have told her that i do not think people will take our relationship seriously if she acts certain ways in public and this is important to me it took me years to become comfortable with who i am sexually and i am still trying i get very very angry when people treat us different than a hetero couple today we went out with her friends i have met the guys before but i had not met the females we went out with i have already had to get over the fact she has messed around with her best guy friend and i like him as a person and he seems respectful so i have no issues with him but when we went out tonight one of the guys girlfriends who was also a friend of hers was all over my she said she was just a friend and she is not even lesbian and that i am over reacting but i have had so many boundary issues with her and other people i told her i dont want men or women touching her like that i dont care who is gay or straight her ex gf used to make big scenes in public i got upset i never said anything to her but i did tug on her sleve to try to get her to stop the other girl from touching her i am not sure how much i am in the wrong there are a lot of things in our relatiuonship that is very complicated all i know is i love her with all of my heart and i want to trust her i have many trust issues from previouse relationship experiance and i am nervouse about her going out i personally think it is reasonable to hug your friends but i dont think lingering waist holding arm holding and generally flirty behavior is normal especially since i have just met her friends today and they know we are daiting she says her friend is straight but she was stairing at her boobs the whole time this was happening and she is extremly jelouse when it comes to me and other females how do i give her what she needs wail getting what i need too she means everything to me and i know she is not being hurtful on purpose but i cant figure out where the boundaires should be in our relationship we live together and are talking about getting married in the next year i dont know what to do i need some outside imput
you have to understand that this is all a lot more stressful for her than it is for you due to her religious parents and all that. If you two are getting married next year then she obviously loves you enough to risk it all to be with you forever. loosen up
I disagree that's not normal to act like that with "friends" and it looks like she's set in her ways so id sit down and make some compromises or you need to get out!
I am a very jealous partner, with a man or a woman. Even for my GF to look at another womans ass it makes my jealousy come up! Have you told her and talked about the way you feel? do you feel she does it on purpose?
