i had a crush/limerance/emotional issue once and tried to confront this person and he ignored me flat out. i was very insulted/offended/angry for a short time but when i got over it the crush etc was cleared. i instantaneously forgot about him and forgot that i had been obsessed with him for months before. it was like i forgot that he existed. because he wasn't respectful enough to acknowledge me there was no way I was going to put any effort into caring about him. He was a waste of energy/emotions. so i stopped caring. it was so weird because i was very hung up on him and then it suddenly vanished as if he never existed.
one of my good friends had a big time crush on another friend of mine in high school. She hates him now that she realized he's a douche.
You do not speak for me. The reason your attraction died op, is that it is made to be obscure, go away through criticism. The picture you paint now is not the picture you imagined to be there before. "it was like i forgot that he existed. because he wasn't respectful enough to acknowledge me there was no way I was going to put any effort into caring about him. He was a waste of energy/emotions. so i stopped caring." Mr. lonleyderanger is butt hurt about me for some reason. He really is clueless as to why. He is a little green.
~ I like that thedope I can relate totally! It's happened to me in the past. It's the only upshot of rejection really. I have a big time crush on my neighbour atm i'm currently plucking up the courage and opportunity to ask him over but if he says no and or isn't into me liking him would become a bad affirmation so no big deal if that's the case, i will just move on.
that has occurred to me because they guy was a complete asshole. it was a little learning experience for me. it was to learn to not try to stick by people who are below you.
Sure, The measure we give is the measure we receive. When he first met his friend he regarded him in a fine light for whatever reason. As time went on he found something to complain about and with each complaint the attraction seems dimmer until he couldn't even remember what was so attractive to begin with. The love we experience does not come from another. The experience of love is only found in the heart that loves, and where your treasure lies, there is your heart also. In this instance he treasured a value system more than his friend. When he perceived his friend did not measure up to that value , he became critical. The critical heart feels unsupported.
actually i'm female. exactly screwwho? its kind of like believing in a church and really liking your pastor and then being ignored by him and realizing he doesn't care at all and is using church money to party.
Recently I thought a guy was a very evil bastard but based on the way he acts I'm going to have to say I think he's in reality not that evil bastard and he's just a really lame, normal, nice guy. I like assholes. Not softies. It was definitely a let-down. And proves that I trust my IMAGINATION more than I do cold-hard-right in front of my eyes reality.
recently someone told me that i was soft. it really pist me off because i've had about five conversations with this person all about chit chat nothing and i'm very guarded with people i don't know. he really doesn't know me at all and i loathe it when people want to tell you about who you are. it's so fucking stupid. im really not an asshole though. so by comparison i guess i could be a softie. i don't really like assholes. so weird that other people do ...
Well, for me, i had fallen in love with my childhood friend and we had some good times, but once the bad times became more prominent, i started to distance myself emotionally and fell out of love. I still care for her, but it's not the same as it once was. :afro:
That's interesting. I can't say that I've experienced that, but I have experienced a sudden vanishing of emotions because of personal realizations. I had a bit of a thing for a friend I made when I first started college. It lasted a couple of months til I realized he had several similar qualities and quirks that an old crush of mine had. After I realized that, my feelings disappeared pretty much instantly.
I hear you petersellars... It's an odd facet of our society that so many people are attracted to assholes and disgusted by gentleness or sensitivity. Being soft-hearted is certainly not a bad thing at all. I would even say that it is an admirable trait. But it also can betray us when we are not guarded. Don't forget, most everyone is broken in some way or another... and a good deal of the input that comes from this world tells people that being open and honest will get you hurt. That's true, but the illogical jump from that to... well then, be an asshole... that's where people take the easy path and often harden themselves, and in that see what had been perceived as their own weakness in others and then feel a need to find their retribution by reversing their role, playing the predator instead of the prey they had once been. And in all that, terrible cycles can be created that could take years, or even lifetimes to resolve. But the truth of the matter is, we are what we are. Sometimes the best we can do is simply be self-protective and cautious of others until we discover a mutual understanding that can engender comfort. Compassion may get us hurt, but we're hurt most of all when we allow ourselves to lose it. And no offense telepath, but in my experience I have found that people that like assholes usually do so because they believe that in accepting assholish behavior from someone else, then they get the right to behave as such in return....
