well if that title doesn't grab you i don't know what will! Ok, here is my predicament. I was more or less a lesbian up until about age 17/18. I had only been in female relationships (sexually, emotionally, etc.) until I met my ex-fiance at age 17. He was the one who "turned" me. (And no I'm NOT straight, I consider myself pansexual meaning I really don't give a fuck. If I fall in love with a guy cool, if it's a girl, cool. I personally think women are FAR more attractive, but men have a lot to offer too ) I did have sex with a man for the first time when I was 16 but it was not an enjoyable experience for me. When I met my ex we had sex a lot and he performed oral sex on me a lot but I rarely did on him. Sadly, he passed away a year and a half later. I have gone down on MANY girls and have a lot of experience in that department. But my experience giving guys oral is very limitted. I have probably done that with about 5 guys total (I'm 22 by the way), but it was never for very long and out of all of those I only made 3 of them cum (by performing oral on them). My problem I've discovered is that I have the WORST gag reflex. Anything bigger than 5-6 inches (going in my mouth all the way) simply gags me . . . pretty bad. And no guy wants a girl puking on him when she's going down on him. Not very sexy, to say the least. So I've heard, "Well no problem, just use your hands AND mouth." So I've tried to do that. I've tried using my tongue (I consider myself pretty skilled with my tongue given my experience with girls). However the guy I'm with now has never come out and said what I do is "bad" per say. But I told him to never be afraid to tell me what he does or doesn't like. He knows I'm fairly new and fairly inexperienced as far as being sexual with men goes and he is cool with that and said he is willing to teach me some "blow job" pointers which I'm totally fine with! But I would like to surprise him and show him that I know some things as well. I had always been told by previous men that "hard and fast" was always the way to go. I knew this couldn't be true. The guy I'm with now says he likes it "slow and sensual." Would any of you - men and women - be willing to give me any pointers in this area? Please don't shoot me down or make fun of me - but I do take constructive criticism VERY well and am willing and wanting to learn in this area! I'm a very open person, especially sexual (I am getting my masters in sexual anthropology) I know it can be a big deal in a love life and pleasing my man is important to me . . . so yeah . . . if you want to tell me any pointers you think might be too "graphic" feel free to PM me!
Guys like it different ways (as you have now found out). This site has some good general tips: http://www.blowjobhow.com/ But getting to know a combination of what you like to do and seem natural at, combined with what a particular guy likes = fun and success
He's probably just happy as hell that you want to go down on him! That being said... a) watch lots of porn b) practice on a banana lol Seriously though? Pay attention to his body and facial cues when you're going down on him. Pay attention to what makes him gasp or catch his breath, what makes him wince (if you're really bad, which i doubt you are) and what causes him to get harder or softer. Ask him closed-ended questions (Q's that require yes or no answers like "do you want me to go faster?") I cant stress enough how important communication is! Other than that, if you wanna surprise him thats great, but personally I find that discovering new moves while in the moment is more fun for both partners Best of luck!
hahaha! That video was probably the best advice! lol just kidding. it did have me rolling on the floor though too funny. thanks for the advice guys (or girls?) ! I had no idea there was a website like that! I checked it out and there are some REALLY great tips! Thank you for sharing that! And yeah, Volupta, I think you're right. I know I don't do it "bad" as in it hurts - just that I could do better with technique and all that. I actually gave him a quick one this morning (morning wood, duh) and I made him cum (for the first time from a bj) so I was really pleased with that. I gagged (I took it in the mouth) - but he knows its not cuz I find cum repulsive or anything, I definitely don't - it's just my whole gag reflex thing. But he seemed to enjoy it! So that's good! (Another - probably stupid - question - so guys like it when you look at them while you are going down on them?)
It's nice to have eye contact during the "action"; makes it feel more personal. But everything in moderation! But I for one don't go for the "stare into my eyes continuously the whole time" thing. Occasional looks (especially as part of some "special move") are great; but I also like time to allow my mind to just float along with the wonderful sensations; and if she wants to "lock eyes the whole time" I feel obligated to do the same; and/or, I feel ike I am being "watched" and those feelings are a distraction from just getting swept up and lost in the wonderful feelings and sensations. Go for moderation.
yeah i would find it creepy to stare at someone the whole time (unless both members are into that) and I think he would too. but i can definitely understand the connection aspect. does anyone have any tips specifically pertaining to the gag reflex thing? If a girl gags (again not because they are "grossed" out but just because they can't help it) does the guy usually take it personally? Or do most of you guys understand (or girls/guys find your guys understand?) This has always worried me and I would REALLY like to get past the gag reflex thing. It is quite a hindrance. Also makes me feel like I can't breathe :/
i'm a straight female, love giving oral to my man. they love it too. these are my two biggest tips: 1. to avoid the gag reflex, tuck your chin to your chest. i know it doesn't seem like it would make sense, but i swear it works. dr. drew (of loveline) also recommends this. 2. one word: Superhead. She is the "video vixen". search for some of her videos. her technique is pretty simple, and guys love it!
i think i've got the tongue thing down. i've always been good in that area. great advice! Thank you!! so does speed not really matter as much then . . .?
Yes wet is essential! A lot of saliva on his cock is usually a huge turn-on. With the speed, as long as it varies, any speed is good. Some guys like it hard'n'fast (these are probably also the ones who would enjoy holding your head and literally fucking your mouth) and others prefer slow. Observe which sucking speed produces the best reaction from your man. It's good to not overthink it too much, the most important thing is that you enjoy the moment. If you're enjoying yourself then he is more likely to. Try slapping his cock on your face, or licking his balls, or placing your hands on his hips as you suck it. All of these things are highly erotic. Your man is lucky, many females do not enjoy an explosion of sperm in their mouths!
Simple Trick: if you cover move of the penis with your mouth and wiggle your tongue up and down the shaft, especially under the head of it. They love it and its fun. As you go you find his sensitive spots. hope that helped good luck!
Im 22, straight and male and all I can say is i've had a fair share of girls who knew what they were doing. - Using some tongue action while you have him in your mouth is always good, but I can see you've said you've got that down - Speed can make a good blow job into a great blow job. Changing speeds throughout sends me through a loop and it just feels awesome; going at a decent pace first, then slow, then fast ALWAYS get me off so good - Throw a curve ball in there from time to time to spice it up. For me, a girl playing with my ass just makes it the best blow job EVER! I'm a big fan of receiving anal from girls when she gets one of my toys in there, things step up a notch and my head explodes (no pun intended). But if that don't float with the guy you're with, playing with his balls or use a lil teeth during are common ways to make it that more fun. Got any more questions, just give me a holler Hoped this helped
without reading all the other responses - i say 1) you don't HAVE to deep throat it. you can just concentrate on the top half of his dick, and i personally like it faster rather than slower but a mix is good 2) don't use TOO much tongue. i feel like girls sometimes do what they think would feel good to THEM, or another girl in your case licking the head and shaft, does feel good, but it ain't no clit 3) pretty that you LOVE doing it, even if you don't. moaning and stuff is real sexy and might help him cum quicker
Turtle mouth !!!!!!!!!!! Cover ur teeth with ur lips like a turtles beak keep ur mouth tight on his dick no slack make that shit like a vice, all the while working ur tongue wiggling it whilst it’s in ur mouth. I also lately have really enjoyed the alphabet thing hold in ur mouth get it all slobbery and when it’s in there try and recite the alphabet I bet he won’t get past G.
