Any different? Cam Chat Versus Porn

These are just a few questions I have. I'd love to hear your opinion on live-cam chatting with another man or woman when in a relationship.

How would you feel if your significant other had a habit of watching live girls/men getting sexy on webcam? Would this be any different than watching porn? Is it okay if he chats dirty with her/him? When does conversation become inappropriate / more personal than dirty talk?

Does it make a difference if they know their chat partner casually, or even if they are simply a local person who they had never met?

Now, I know that the majority here on the relationships thread would go ahead and give the "ok" to porn in most cases. But does the fact that so many relationships start online these days make the idea of live-chat camming any different to you? Would you feel that it is "cheating" or "dishonest" if he or she doesn't mention it?

 

I am not sure how I feel about if it is "cheating" or "dishonest" or whatever - but there is a definite difference.

That is; watching porn is "removed" from having a "live one on one" connection to another human. Cam "stuff" is live and often interactive.

That to me is a major difference.

The implications of that difference, I am not sure. But I recognize a real difference between the two types of activities.

A cam-thing might be closer to going to a strip joint; especially if one partakes in a "private room" situation there; than to watching porn at home.

 

You asked a lot of questions in that post!

Bottom line to all of your questions..if he's having video cyber sex, I'd be livid.

 

I´d raise hell if my boyfriend did sexy live cam chatting or even sexy text live chatting or sexy emails! Anything sexy with someone else besides me would be cheating! Porn, such as in movies or photos, although we know those are real people, there´s no direct interaction between the viewer and the porn "artist". But chatting implies an exchange, interaction, verbal and visual and that´s a lot different!

 

I have never thought about it that way. I can definitely see how it's more like a club than porn, but I can also see Curlygirl's point about camchat being comparable to text messaging. And there is no way I'd be down with the dirty texting. Somehow I still feel like I'd be less betrayed by a cam chat session than text messaging though.

I only ask because my boyfriend and I have never talked about cam chatting - and I have reason to believe he's at least browsed a website or two. I just don't like that it has never been mentioned. I imagine he probably didn't say anything because he already knew I was okay with internet porn - but I don't see the two as being the same thing really.

Just food for thought for couples that think they've already talked everything out - even if you're in the green you have to think about those gray areas!

Thanks for the response so far, guys!

 

No matter what, there are always going to be secrets in relationships...and one of the biggest secrets of all seems to be the use of internet/porn/cams/whatever...for some reason, most men don't find it necessary to tell us or even admit to doing these things...