So I've posted some other forums that relate to this somewhat (1 being that I met a guy in real life from online and another that being horny gives me indigestion! haha! random I know ) Well .. .here is my 3rd "problem" and it has to do with the first two ... well, sort of. First off, I should say, I'm in an open relationship with my soul mate. Things aren't working out for us sexually at the moment so we both have free reign to see/be involved with other people. We are both 100% supportive of each other in this area, so if you have a problem with that or want to judge me, don't even bother replying. That being said I recently met a REALLY cool guy online (I've known him about 3 months, met him in real life last week, we text/chat/e-mail every day). I have a huge crush on him and vice versa. This is great and all - BUT it is making me SUPER distracted which is not a good thing right now for me being as I am 2 months away from graduating /getting my masters. These last two months of school are going to be VERY VERY hard and I really need to stay focused. He is completely understanding and isn't "trying" to distract me (they never do or so it seems ) - my issues are definitely "my" issues ... I don't want to close or back off on the relationship ... but I don't want it to come in the way of getting my masters -something I have been working VERY hard towards for a long time. 2 months is a short time and even if put the "relationship" on hold for that time (which I'm willing to do) -it still won't keep me from having a crush on the guy and simply having the feeling of being smitten. lol (losing my appetite, can't think straight in class, having trouble with my assignments, etc.) I'm at a bit of an impasse -any suggestions??
you just kind of have to work through it. why not consult your "soul mate" about it if it is bothering you that much, he should be able to help you out.
i have consulted him. he's not much help. lol. he's supportive but he just says "Sorry baby. Just do what you have to do to graduate!"
i think he's telling you the same thing then. if this interest is interfering with your studies then you're going to have to put it on hold and NOT TALK TO HIM. cutting off communication with stop the thoughts with time. you gotta stop the bleeding, instead of keep cuttin
I've witnessed that coyote get crushed at least a dozen times by anvils and cliffsides. ARE YOU SUPERIOR TO A COYOTE!!???!!!??
I'm a bit like you in the sexual sphere. Pent up sex drive just paralyzes me. I often feel like I have to improvise a way to relieve myself in order to be productive. And, masturbation basically feels like a cop out.
i would just have sex with the crush. that's whats distracting you; crushes are basically mind fucks anyway. once you sleep with him you'll move to a different level. the problem was sexual frustration originally; that's why you're open and why you met the dude. now you're frustrated and crushing? just have sex with the guy. why would that even interfere with your masters at this point? just do it. do it do it do it.
I've seen him every week since and we have sex every time. I no longer have that "needless distracted" feeling. So yeah, peter, you were right and the sex helps A LOT!
