Hey everyone, My name is Sarah. I really need advice on my situation. Last year I came out to my parents and they were very supportive. I had many relationships with women and knew that being a lesbian was something that came completely natural. However the last one ended badly, and turned me off from women thinking I couldnt do it anymore. My next relationship was to a man, and we ended up connecting well and getting engaged. As time has passed, I feel like we have lost that. He really cares about me, but I am afraid of breaking his heart because I really dont find men sexually attractive. I keep thinking that I am making a mistake .... what do I do?
Oh, I forgot to mention that this relationship has been struggling because he has lied to me about money multiple times
Relationships are built on trust, and if you can't trust him, that's reason to end it with him as it is. Also, if it's important to you enough that you feel strongly about making a mistake marrying a man, for whatever reason, then it is time to break it off. While I think it IS important to take into consideration how the other person feels, what about you? He will only hurt for so long, and so will you. But if you don't, you're going to be miserable your whole life (or for the time you are with him) and it's going to cause a huge strain on your relationship/marriage anyway. It's better to just end it now for a "short" bit of pain than to live a sham your whole life, especially if you're basically in a one way relationship in which you aren't sexually benefited (or benefited in any other ways, as well).
I really appreciate your advice and I believe that you are right on this subject. I am barely attracted. I know its painful to break up, but I make the decisions in my life and I need to live it for myself.
I have to agree with seizedbyanger on this. One of the most important things in a relationship is trust and honestly. So talk to him tell him how you are feeling. Hope it all works out for you both in the end.
